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Should I have my sister learn the hard way?
Posted Tuesday June 15 2010, 2:07 am
I am 15 years old and my sister seems to be having financial problems. As her brother I don't mind lending or giving her a little bit of money. My parents found a marijuana pipe and later meth pipe both used in her room. She seems to spend so much that she started stealing money from me and asking me to make counterfeits. Then like always she lies and makes up lame excuses. How should I deal with it, call the cops and file a theft charge try to "scare her straight"? She passed a drug test but it was at home her friends were over and it took her 2 hours.
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My dad is cheating on my mom with another man...?
Posted Monday June 14 2010, 2:29 pm
ok so about a year ago i read a few of my dads text messages. there were some texts of questionable nature and they were sent to a guy. i told my sister and then we sat down together and told my mom. she confronted my dad who denied it and we all went along with our little lives. then yesterday, i was the only one awake in my house and my dads iPod touch was charging in the kitchen, i proceeded to start playing some apps and what not. but then i got a funny feeling that i should click on the "email" app. so i did. he had 3 different email accounts set up to it, two of them i was familiar with, but i had never seen the third before. so i clicked on it and this is when i wish i would just STOP going through my dads stuff. he had sev...
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How Can I Cope With Being a "Black Sheep"?
Posted Sunday June 13 2010, 6:32 pm
I am a 22-year-old female college senior and the "black sheep" of my family. I do not believe my family has a good reason to label me the "bad" daughter when I have never done anything my 25-year-old sister (now a stay-at-home mom) has not done before me. My heart is broken over this. I try and try to do well in life, but somehow nothing I do is ever good enough. I make A's and B's in school and am more financially responsible than most people my age. I don't do drugs, and I drink but I don't get drunk. I'm tired of trying to please them when nothing I try is or will ever be good enough to do so. I don't know if I can ever let go of my bitterness toward my family for treating me this way. If it's relevant, I'm the younge...
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Inheritance dilemma!
Posted Saturday June 12 2010, 6:17 pm
I'd like to bequethe a substantial part of my estate to my two younger sisters but really DON'T want either of their spouses or children to inherit this down the line. Is it fair to insist in my Will that my sisters bequethe that inheritance to my choice of charities when they die?
I'm 63 and female.
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sisters
Posted Saturday June 12 2010, 4:02 pm
hi..
i am a year and a half older than my sister... we're somewhat close... it's very complicated... when we both moved away to college (i am 2 years ahead so wen she started freshman we moved but i'd already had creds from my old college) anyway so i adapted fast and she didn't... she is a tattletale ever since she could talk... she was depressed and miserable and missed her friends... i made friends in my new city fast and was out partying all the time.. i get straight As and she flunks and got warnings from the faculty she's in... she's very conservative and religious (my parents are like that and am cool with it but am more liberal) anyway my parents were also on her case about grades so she ended up pointing the blame on me an...
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How to tell him you want a baby
Posted Saturday June 12 2010, 3:08 pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We have had sex for 6 months now with protection (condoms AND birth control pills). We're both 20 years old so we're out of high school and we live together in his mom's basement right now.
I really want to have a baby and start a family with him. I want us to get married and have a nice little life, you know? Well, I heard that it's better to have kids when you're young and able to do things with them so I think 20 sounds reasonable.
I haven't talked to my boyfriend about having children. When we starting doing it together he said all kids scare the hell out of him so he wanted to make sure we were extra safe by always using 2 forms of birth control...
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How to get this kid out of our house.
Posted Friday June 11 2010, 2:49 pm
So long story short, my brothers friend we hardly know parent asks if there kid can stay at our hous for three days. My mom was so taken aback and didn't know what to say she just said I guess I'll have to talk to my husband. Well we forgot about it and today they show up at our house and drop him off and they didn't even give him any money for food or anything. Also, we really don't have the money to support him. I've hardly eaten nor has my family for the past few days because we are waiting for my dad to get paid. We really don't have the money to feed an extra person. We hardly know this kid. The parents are off at some motorcycle thing. How do we get this kid out of our house.
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What should I do if I am grounded on the first day of summer?
Posted Thursday June 10 2010, 12:33 pm
My sister was yelling at me so I told her to shut up. So my brother thought that I was talking to him so he told me to shut up and that I can't tell him what to do. I slamed my door and my mom told my friend that she had to go home because I was being a brat. I yelled and she grounded me for the
first day of summer. I am not aloud to have a television. I have to stay in my room all day. If I slam my door again I will have to stay in my room for 2 weeks. What should I do to keep myself buisy and not be bored? I am a 13 year old female.
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My mom refuses to go grocery shopping and I am starving!
Posted Wednesday June 9 2010, 2:53 pm
My mom refuses to go grocery shopping. Its been this way since i was in like...fifth grade. I am now 19. I remember as a child going to school, and not having lunch, or any lunch money, and just sitting there starving while all of my friends ate there lunches.
Were pretty well off, we have a large house and plenty of money, so I dont understand what her problem is. Just know i asked her if we were going to go grocery shopping anytime soon, and she told me to go buy food. Its getting pretty rediculous. My little brother is still in school, and he has to buy his food himself. I just dont think this is normal. We all have jobs, and normally I go buy my own food, but she never has dinner on, and if she does its the smallest p...
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Your own daughter is trying to turn your son against you with lies?
Posted Wednesday June 9 2010, 1:35 pm
What do you do when your daughter is trying to turn your son against you with lies? She tells him that I say and do mean things to her when he is not around. This is completely false. She has talked him into selling their home and moving to where her mother lives. It is like she is trying to make my son want to leave without feeling bad or something. I have no problem with them moving if that is something they truely both want to do, but does she have to make it on bad terms?
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Why am I so irritable lately?
Posted Monday June 7 2010, 1:15 am
I am 15 year old female, and I am so close with my parents especially my mum. We are practically best friends. But lately i have been feeling very irritable, especially when my parents start touching each other, and talk about their sex lives. It is just so annoying. Like at family parties i have to walk out because i can't stand the talk. For example, your mom is a horn dog, or we have sex everyday. Gah! i am ready to rip my hair out. I get so angry i walk out. Grr. Can you please tell me why i am so irritated and sensitive with this subject?
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what to do about my parents and college...
Posted Sunday June 6 2010, 11:13 pm
So im going to college this fall. Ive always wanted to go to this one college, LEE, along with my parents. but i feel its turned more into their dream then mine. I have a long distant relationship (for 2 yrs) and want to go to a community college where he is(im 18 almost 19 and hes almost 20), to save money too. I found out im paying for all my college. And the Communtiy college is half the price of LEE. Id go to the college for general education then go to LEE, and while doing GE id be getting some classes for my major out of the way. but id be living with my boyfriend and my dad is a pastor so thats another problem. I recently moved in with my boyfriend but moved back home for college and now i think it was a very bad idea. cus i wanna go...
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Neighbour issue
Posted Sunday June 6 2010, 4:53 pm
So there's some teens and their Dad living next door. My neighbour's yard si growing into a jungle, which is fine, but they've got a hedgegorwing right along the fence diving us (which I guess the teens thinks that it makes they're partying soundproof but it's not)and so they don't do anything and just let it grow so it's growing through the fence into OUR side and the ugly flowers keep falling onto our beautfiful freshly cut grass (which is one of the things my Dad puts a lot of his time and effort into maintaining his garden).
Franky, the dad must not own a lawn mower because
none of us has ever heard or seen him mowing the lawn.
Do you think that it's our problem (our side, we clean) or theirs? And w...
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my friends dad is beating him
Posted Saturday June 5 2010, 1:05 am
15/f & my friend greg** is 15/m .
My friends dad beats him. And according to court his dad is allowed to give him "spankings" & there's no proof that he beats him. This may be hard to follow.
Gregs mom would take his father to court, so that he would never have to see his dad again. But Greg has been to rehab before & his father could use that against them in court.
I'm so scared my friend is gonna get seriously hurt. I'm talking to him right now on face book & he's telling me how his dad left him on the stairs bleeding and he couldn't move what so ever.
What if his dad takes it too far? I don't even know what to do. My mom would take Greg into our home in...
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omg i can't take thiss anymore
Posted Friday June 4 2010, 3:07 pm
19/f i have a controlling/crazy/abusive family. I know no one is perfect especially not me, but my family is driving me insane. My parents are so controlling. All they do is fight with each other and not only that they are so rude to me. My mom for example brings things up from like years ago, and i notice whenever we're out and about she'll say something rude, and she won't stop. Not only that she's always asking me if I've eaten anything and if i tell her no she'll start yelling at me. I am getting so sick of it because really im 19 now and it's none of her damn business if i eat or not. My dad is crazy. he came from an abusive home. He gets mad so easily that i don't even know where to start. If i don't do things there way they'll yell a...
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I can't get my mother to understand why I wouldn't come home.
Posted Tuesday June 1 2010, 5:04 pm
A few months ago, I decided to drop a friend of mine who I considered manipulative, condescending, and who plainly didn't deserve the title "friend". I didn't do anything mean or cowardly, I just stopped talking to her, to avoid conflict. Turns out, that's exactly what I caused. While I wasn't home and she'd come to visit my mother, she would sneak through my room to catch something to get me into trouble, or steal my things and hide them from me. Eventually, both my younger and older sister turned against me with her, and I couldn't do anything.
Still, I kept my mouth shut, wouldn't talk unless I had too, but things just became too much. I requested to my mother that she not b allowed over. She ignored me.
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I feel I am a worthless individual
Posted Sunday May 30 2010, 7:52 pm
I am a 40-yearl old female, married with no kids. My parents visit us often. They adore their son-in-law. Me, on the other hand can't do anything right. I have a kind heart that reaches out to one & all around me- which according to them is "me allowing them to become sponges". I am torn 'cos the conflicts have only become worse over the years. I try to have a fresh start & everytime it ends on a sour note. Can you please advice?
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My mom and I can't seem to stop fighting, i need some help!
Posted Friday May 28 2010, 9:20 pm
I am a 15 year old Female, and am going to be a junior in high school next year.
My mom have had some rough times, including a run-in with CPS, and hard fighting. I always feel controlled, without any freedom. SHe sontrols me by the following:
-watching and monitoring my internet usage
-checking grades for school every other day
-not allowing me to meet up with my friends(the ones with straight A's and good reputations)
-listening in on my phone calls,
-completing background checks on my friends.
Out of all of this, we have done mother-daughter religious retreats, therapy, and talking with the priest, but nothing ever changes. I need some help to be able to talk with her, without yelling and fighting!
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21 & alcohol
Posted Friday May 28 2010, 4:53 pm
I recently turned 21. I was very excited for it and still am. I'm a responsible and sensible person, I go to school and work full time. When I'm not busy, I like to let loose and have a good time. The thing is, I like alcohol, very much. The problem is, my mom absolutely hates it since her mother (my grandmother) was an alcoholic. Every time I go out, she gives me this look and gets upset because she knows I'm going to drink. I can't stand it, because it makes me feel guilty for nothing and I end up not having a good time. I love my mom and tell her everything, but this is one thing that we disagree on and is tearing at our relationship. Turning 21 was supposed to be fabulous, but it's her nightmare. How do I handle this situation?
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34 and no privacy
Posted Friday May 28 2010, 3:58 am
im 34 moved in with my mom to help my mother take care of my grandma my mom has lupus & my grandma is bed ridden. Everytime I leave the house my mom goes through my stuff or when i goto bed at night she steals my keys or has even used a coat hanger to unlock my car to snoop through it. and its getting really old i have two kids and this is showing them to disrespect me and they told me they are starting to hate their grandma when i confront her she hollers and screams & says im the bad parent. i am soooo agravated i could just scream.
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