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Having Unknown Anger Towards My Dad..
Posted Thursday February 4 2016, 11:42 pm
I'm a female I'm 16 years old. I've usually gotten along with my mom 10x better. I haven't had a bad relationship with my dad it's just he always works so we don't get to connect on a daily basis as my mom and I. Both my parents live together and I can't complain much about my lifestyle. When my sister was pregnant she had problems with her high blood pressure then in her final weeks had an infection so they made her stay in the hospital and I understand why my parents favored her during that time because she needed it. They've always favored her more though but I've gotten use to it. Meanwhile that time she was in the hospital my mom would stay with her a lot and leave me and my dad to come home by ourselves. My mom basically does everythi...
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Don't Know How to Feel About What My Mom Said
Posted Tuesday February 2 2016, 12:29 am
Let me start by saying that I didn't mean for this to be so long, but I think it's important for you to know all of the details. Last Tuesday, my mom and I went out to dinner and I don't remember how, but she got on the subject of the four days of her life that she wished she had to do over. The day I was born was on the list, although not for the reason I probably made it sound like.
I was my parents' second child and my sister was like ten days late. She was supposed to come on new years eve and when she still wasn't born, my mom had to check into a hospital and have a C-section the next day. My mom never went into labor with her.
I was supposed to be born on September 18th, but my mom went into labor on the ...
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Should I Feel Bad About Not Making My Sister My Kid's Legal Guardian?
Posted Wednesday January 20 2016, 1:29 am
When my nephew was about four months old, my sister told me that she and her husband had named me as my nephew's legal guardian in their will simply because I was already his godmother. I was very surprised and touched, especially because at the time, I felt I was the most unqualified of anyone who could have taken him. I was 28 years old, unmarried, temporarily unemployed, didn't have my own place to live, and had zero experience caring for a child on my own. I thought they were crazy for choosing me. I was the only adult in the baby's life who had ANY of those problems and I lived nine hours away from them and still do, as opposed to my brother in law's entire side of the family.
Recently, I had to rewrite my will and when ...
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i want a baby
Posted Sunday January 17 2016, 11:41 am
my husband said that it will happen when it happeneds what does that mean in the long run?
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9 year old son
Posted Sunday January 10 2016, 9:34 pm
My son is 9 years old. He has been diagnosed with aspergers. We have tried counseling , therapy , medication with no avail. We recently just switched to another therapist this past week after being with our last for two years. He has anger issues. My ex husband was abusive as far as locking the kids in bedrooms pulling down his pants to spank him kicked him with a steal toe boot etc. His best friend was taken by social services recently and we haven't seen them since. Another friend and down syndrome and passed away. I bought him a puppy to try and help with the loss of friends and responsibilities he wants nothing to do with the dog he says he loves him but doesn't want to take care of him
He is constantly yelling and screaming cal...
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annoying brothers...still
Posted Wednesday January 6 2016, 8:58 pm
So I asked a previous question about my brothers who were constantly coming into my bedroom when I wanted to be alone, and how I had difficulty getting them to leave.
A lot of the answers I got suggested getting a lock on my door. A couple mentioned that them coming in when the door was closed was a way for them to try and see me in a state of undress.
I talked to my brothers and my mom about this, not quite so directly, but....
The result is that the boys have to knock if my door is closed, but that I am only supposed to close the door if I am a)changing; b) sleeping; or c) doing homework and want quiet.
So they have been pretty good about that. They haven't just waltzed in when the doo...
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What to Do When a Dying Estranged Father Won't See His Daughter
Posted Wednesday January 6 2016, 8:53 pm
What do you do when someone fairly new in your life, but who you care for and are worried about, has a dying father who doesn't want to see or talk to her before he dies? I know there's not much anyone outside of the family can do about it, but there's got to be some way to help.
Imagine that this father had two daughters and was a deadbeat to both of them when it came to taking care of them, but has always had a special spot for his first born. She's always been his perfect little princess while the youngest has always been his defiant little screw up. At least that's the way he's always seen her.
He had a certain plan for each of his girls. He had high standards when it came to where they'd go to college, wha...
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Posted Monday January 4 2016, 10:14 am
I am currently in a situation where I have to with my family for a few weeks and it's hard for me because I can't stand being around them. I need to block out their sound with headphones or else I go absolutely nuts and my anxiety level hits the roof. Finally I've found something that calms me and gets me out of my head: Netflix. As soon as an absolute miracle like this comes in to my life I have to give it up because the internet doesn't work in my room, which is my only place to be alone. What are alternatives to using the Internet, that will get me out of my head, give my mind something structured to focus on and is easy?
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Controlling parents-how to move out after Uni?
Posted Friday January 1 2016, 12:23 pm
I'm about to enter my final semester at University and am very worried about the future.
This is because my mother is highly controlling and is trying to carve out my life for me.
She tells me I have to look for jobs in the north west and says things like I am to get a job and live at home for a few years, to save up
to then buy a place of my own.
The control doesn't end there though. I'm nearly 21 and she has ignored that I said I want to have a meal in a city to celebrated and said 'Oh it'd be better here instead'.
She doesn't even let me go round to the local shop without coming with me or asking several questions! She also hates it when I want to spend time away from home overnight with...
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Posted Wednesday December 30 2015, 2:53 pm
What can a nursing mother use to gain wieght
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My Parents never let me have any money for myself
Posted Wednesday December 30 2015, 10:15 am
Do you think that is fair that for my parents dont give me pocket money amd i have stopped givig me anything for my birthday and christmas? Im a 15 year old girl and i do ski racing, i know its an expensive sport and i really appreciate what my parents do for me by willingly buying my equipment and my training. But the dont think I appreciate this at all, ad thats the problem. The decided to never give me pocket money to help fund my passion which i was fine with as i still got around £50 for my birthday and £100 for christmas for basic things like clothes and going out with friends, phone ect. I was hard and it takes me years to save up sometimes but i didnt mind. Now tho the stopped my money for birthday and christmas so i dont know wha...
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Going aboard for study leaving Mum alone, whose husband passed away
Posted Wednesday December 30 2015, 9:03 am
TO WHOM IT IS READING
FIRST, I MUST THANK FOR YOUR ATTENTION. I AM A HONG KONG STUDENT AND HAVE GOT A CHANCE TO GO ABOARD LEARNING IN THE USA. I AM POOR AND IT IS AN UTTERLY GREAT CHANCE FOR ME TO GAIN THE EXPEREINCE.
HOWEVER, WHAT I AM CONCERNING IS MY MUM WHOSE HUSBAND HAS DIED WILL BE LEFT ALONE AS I STEP AWAY. I HAVE TALKED TO HER FOR THOUSANDS TIMES, AND SHE HAS BEEN AGREEING TO LET ME GO, BUT WITH A FACE GRIEVOUSLY PAINTED. SHE ALSO SAID THAT IF I AM REALLY WORRIED WITH HER I CAN JUST STAY BEHIND AND IGNORE THE CHANCE. I KNOW SHE WILL BE MISSING ME SO MUCH AND I AM QUITE SURE THAT WITHOUT ME THE WOMAN WHO IS STEPPING 60S WILL DEFINITELY FEEL HOPELESS OR EVEN CRY PROVIDED NO RELATIVES HERE. I AM REQUIRED TO REPLY BY JAN 5...
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I'm really annoyed by my little sister
Posted Saturday December 26 2015, 8:41 pm
I would like to start off by saying that I love my little sister. I would do anything for her. That being said, I get really irritated around her and don't like spending time together. I am especially ashamed of my feelings because we have a large age gap; she's 4, and I'm 19 - and I feel that someone who is basically an adult should be more tolerant of a toddler, especially when that toddler is their own sister.
Although I am away at college for most of the year, when I am at home (my parent's house), I want very little to do with my sister. She cries and screams frequently (over the smallest of things) and it drives me crazy. She's very anxious/nervous and fearful of trying new things, and it bothers me the way my parents n...
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annoying brothers
Posted Tuesday December 22 2015, 9:30 pm
I am 17/F, my brothers are 13 and 15. We are currently on Christmas break, have been for the past 4 days.
It seems their favourite activity is walking into my bedroom without knocking while I am reading and fiddling around with my stuff and talking to me about Minecraft (which I am utterly uninterested in) or trying to convince me to read Lord of the Rings (also not interested).
I really don't like that they continually come in, particularly because they just waltz in without knocking even though I have asked them to knock multiple times. I talked to my mom about it and she told me to just ask them nicely to leave.
There are a couple of problems with that idea. First, I don't want them to come...
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Stepbrother asked sister for sex
Posted Monday December 21 2015, 12:05 am
Recently my little sister told me the reason her and my stepbrother don't get along because when she was about 15 or 14 and he being 17 when they were both high not that this makes it an excuse ... Well my stepbrother asked my little sister if they could have sex.... Mind you my dad and stepmom have been together sense we were 6 so we've been related by marriage for almost 20 years now so this happened 4 or 5 years ago... I told my fiancé and I told my older sister who also doesn't know what to make of the situation or what to do!! My little sister said we can't do anything because so much time has passed. I'm sick to my stomach and the fact that she shares a space with him where they sleep makes me scared. I don't know what good it would ...
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Mum talks to me like a child
Posted Saturday December 19 2015, 4:27 am
I'm 20 but my mum will still call me 'princess ' and 'honey blossom' in public sat if we're out shopping.
Also she likes me to come home every weekend when I'm at uni and she has to call me at set times during the week which is awkward because often it's on evenings and I have plans to go out or I'll be at a bar when she calls!
She hates me spending much time anywhere else and acts off with me -think she's jealous. She has to know my whereabouts always and suggests curfews saying 'it won't take you and '*friend* 5 hours to look round the shops ' etc.
She even takes time off work to take my sister to job interviews. I love her and really don't want to hurt her but I'm sick of being treated as a ...
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I Had a Dream that My Son Punched My Dad in the Face and I Liked it
Posted Tuesday December 15 2015, 4:57 am
I can't even believe I just typed those words. That has to be one of the weirdest titles to a question that you all have probably ever read, but it happened.
My dad's not the greatest guy in the world and is a far worse father and an absolutely abysmal husband. He's verbally abusive to my mother and calls her names like b!tch, a$$ wipe, and other such things. He screams at her at the top of his lungs and she can't defend herself because it just makes him so much angrier and crazier. He's often in a bad mood and takes it out on her, but denies doing so. He picks on her by doing things just to make her mad because he finds it amusing to get her all riled up, While there are plenty of other ways he sucks as a husband, but you ge...
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my mom might be costing me my life
Posted Sunday December 13 2015, 5:08 pm
Good afternoon,
I'm writing this because I'm reaching out for help. I've tried searching for help in many places, but a lot of those sources are helping me deal with and sort out my feelings, and barely any are helping me with a plan of action. I'm 25 years, and I'm my mother's only daughter. She adopted me at birth. Following my adoption, my father abandoned us because he got a prostitute pregnant and chose to remain as a part of that family. From that moment on, my mother grew unhealthily obsessed with me. I never had a healthy relationship with a member of my family. I realized this at a pretty young age. My mother never let me sleep in my own bed. She wouldn't let me bathe myself until I was 14 years old. I wasn't allowed...
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Christmas gift for my mom to remember her dad.
Posted Friday December 4 2015, 1:16 pm
About 4 months ago, I lost my poppop to cancer. As it has definitely been hard for me to lose him, it has been exceptionally hard for my mom because she was very close to her dad. Long story short, I want to make her something very memorable for her this Christmas that she'll love to have forever to always remember him. I remember her looking at something where I could sew a flannel shirt of his on to a pillow so she would still have a piece of him always. She already was gifted a quilt of some of his clothes and pictures of all of us so nothing quite like that, please. I'm just looking for memorable, cute DIY gifts to make her smile and remember the good times with him instead of his last few days suffering. Any help or ideas is greatly appreciated!! Thanks!
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How can I remove all the cats from my Dad's home and then clean it up?
Posted Tuesday December 1 2015, 9:04 pm
My father is turning 55 on Sunday and he lives alone in his house with 60+ cats. He thinks it's a cat rescue, but I'm pretty sure it's hoarding. He just bought the house a few years ago and it's a complete mess with cat feces, urine and vomit everywhere.
Every time he gets rid of a cat he takes in 5 more and I'm sick to death of him living like this.
My dad is NOT healthy. He has had cancer, lung problems, multiple spinal disc bulges, hernias, and severe arthritis. On top of this he spends all day working and then comes home to "take care" of 60-100 cats.
In reality they just run around further ruining his home.
He makes okay money at his job (40K/year), but i...
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