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Should I stay or should I go?
Posted Thursday April 2 2009, 7:26 pm
Okay, right about now,my life isn't so great. I don't have any close friends, absolutly hate the close minded town i live in, and can't stand my family! I want to get away from it all,and the only way I can do this is by moving in with my dad who lives in another state. See,theres some problems with this though. My brother (who i hate, no,not the kind of hate thats like "he's still your brother"-he's deffinatly no brother to me.) moved with my dad about 3 years ago. He hated it there and fought with my dad all the time so he moved back here. Now,my brothers a very controlling person and always believes he's right(he also breaks everything.) But its so much more as well. Thats how my dad used to be,but he changed. I honestly believ...
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having children
Posted Thursday April 2 2009, 11:22 am
I am a happily married 26 yr old lady. My husband and I are married 4 years as of today. My dilemma comes from us not having children yet. Both our parents are pretty much pushing us and nagging about "where are my grand babies?" I've told them we aren't stopping anything that it will happen when god lets it happen. Apparently that isn't good enough. I'm starting to get depressed now about it. Everything from us trying for 4 years to them nagging and then old family friends asking about it too, just makes me feel useless. I can't afford to go to a doctor to see why we haven't had children yet, so we are just going with god for now. Any other advice about it? I really wish someone could make me feel better, tell me a better way to ...
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I Think My Dad is Cheating
Posted Wednesday April 1 2009, 9:17 pm
For a long time now I have suspected that my father has been cheating on my mother. It's not necessarily that he's suspiciously left the house or anything, just that I'd noticed a lack of love between my parents. The, one day, I went to ask him something, and I saw a "sexsearch" website on the computer screen. I chose to ignore it and pretended I hadn't seen it. A few months past, and I was looking for the iPod my mother had taken away from me when I stumbled upon an unused condom in a draw next to my dad's side of the bed. Once again, ignoring it, although I was emotionally scarred just by the fact that it was there. Anyway, just a few hours ago, my mother, whom is technologically illiterate, asked me to pull something up from he...
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Regaining my mothers trust
Posted Tuesday March 31 2009, 12:01 am
okay so today my grades from school came in. suuucked! you see, i usually get a's and maybe one or two b's. but this time i got some c's. so my mom was really really mad at me since i kept tellin her that i was doin good in school. also she asked me why i was so tired sometimes. so she ended up taking my phone away.
i had no time to erase any of my text messages. but i handed her the phone. not only did she read a lot of my text messages, she viewed who i was callin, who was callin me, and voice mail ppl had left me. i feel like i have no privacy at all. :(
anyway, after my mother had gone through all the spying, she came into my room and asked me all these questions. she asked me who carlos was. of course i k...
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I want to move out
Posted Monday March 30 2009, 10:34 am
19/f
I am 19 and my parents dont really allow me to do much. I feel like a child. My friends all make fun of me for being under such close watch and not being allowed to go places and do things like most 19 or 18 year old do, because i always have to ask my parents and hope that they will permit me to do something... I have no freedom. I've fairly recently gotten in trouble for trying to go out, because I said so, and I was like... its time to stop being controlled by my parents and get out and have some fun.
I had to deceive my parents so that i could do what i wanted to do. I couldn even leave the house without my mom looking out the door to see who was picking me up and to see if they were there yet...
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what i have to do
Posted Monday March 30 2009, 6:41 am
I am from Bangladesh.A Muslim women(38years) .Age of my marriage is 14 years.I have three children of 12,10 & 8 years old. I had a very good relationship with my husband(45years). He is very honest ,caring to me & my family . He is from a very good & honorable family.I never find any bad habit in him.But recently he made a sexual relationship with my maid in my absence at home.I couldn't realize due to my blind believe.But when the occurrence comes out ,he confess. he said it was just an accident.he didn't control him at that 7/8 times.he tried to return from that situation.There was no other mental involvement.He sick my forgiveness .He still love me.He can't think himself without me,give promises that this will never happened ...
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I want to move but my mom won't let me...
Posted Sunday March 29 2009, 11:13 pm
15/f
My parents got divorced last summer after my dad found out my mom was cheating on him. So they've been divorced for about a year now and my mom got married to the guy she cheated on my dad with about a month after the divorce was final. My dad was heartbroken for a while but eventually found someone he's totally in love with and they're engaged. Basically, when they were getting a divorce, my dad wanted to make it quick and clean so as not to cause any emotional stress to any of us kids [My older brother (16), and my two little sisters (8 and 9)]. So he offered to be the one to move out and allowed my mom to have custody of us kids because transportation to and from school would be easier if we lived with her. So he move...
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older brother is immature!
Posted Friday March 27 2009, 4:47 pm
I'm 20, in college and also work. I'm considered the 'responsible' kid in my house, who always gets things done. My older brother is 25, and doing nothing with his life. He doesn't have a job, any motivation or ambition. He parties and comes home whenever, and my mom has kicked him out numerous times. It's stressful and aggravating! I know it's his life, but I also feel bad for my parents that are at their wit's end and don't know what else to do. Any ideas or advice on this situation? He needs to grow up and move out!
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my dads cheating. && my mom doesnt know.
Posted Thursday March 26 2009, 2:49 pm
Background info: Recently my dad has Started webcaming with "people" he has met online. He says that they are "guys" from other countrys that are nice nd he just talks with.
the other night i was sitting in the living room watching t.v && on my computor. my dad was also in the living room on his computor on webcam. He coverd the side of his face and I saw him blow the camra a kiss TWICE!. && the night before someone had sent him a kissy message the ones that make a kissy sound. I dont care what anyone thinks but I consider this cheating. weather its emotional cheating or actual sex cheating its still cheating.
Now im positive my mom doesnt know about this but I cant be the o...
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bff's douchebag boyfriend.
Posted Wednesday March 25 2009, 6:31 pm
ok so i asked this question a few months ago (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=557281.) . if you dont wanna read it; basically my bff and her bf had been going otu for 2 months and he obv didnt like her as much as she liked him, he was tagging along everwhere, he had a boring personality, and she acted much more not herself around her friends when he was around.
see, shes still going out with him. my other best friend and i (this girl is her best friend, too) confronted her a few weeks ago because we just couldnt take it anymore, we hate this kid soo much. and you were right. she said she was really happy right now and she didnt want to mess things up, but she listened to what we had to say and let us sound off. shes a...
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My parents have nasty habits...
Posted Wednesday March 25 2009, 6:15 pm
My parents want to come and spend the night at my house. I have told them hundreds of times that they have really nasty habits (like not washing their hands after using the bathroom then touching food and not taking baths but once a week). Then they come and bring roaches with them (unintentionally of course) from their house, that they refuse to clean. (Then they ask why we don't visit them at their house. Last time we went I got a glass from the cabinet to get some water to drink and it had roach eggs and spiderwebs in it.)I have to treat them like children and tell them how to do things properly. I do not like them giving my kids food because I don't know where their hands have been. When I do tell them that they need to clean up their a...
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Abusive family
Posted Tuesday March 24 2009, 9:05 pm
K so my life sucks i go to school i do everything im asked and even though im too young to work and cant find work i still do things for some of the neighbors just so i can make some money and buy my own stuff but my parents still dont like me they only like my older brother who does a lot of bad things but never gets caught like he stole my moms debit and used it like crazy and then put it in my room so i would get in trouble basically i feel like running away my parents yell at me all the time my brother hits me and because i get sick a lot im home most of the time and i get yelled at even more so my school asked if i wanted to do school online so i could be healthy and not have to worry about missing school and work. when the school sugg...
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Feeling EMPTY!
Posted Monday March 23 2009, 5:27 pm
I am 20/f my father moved out a year ago and things didnt end on a good note. I am in a very HAPPY 3 year realtionship. My sister just moved out and i live at home alone with my mother. I do not have any friends that I go out with so the only times I go out I go with my bf and his friends which isnt a problem because i like his friends. I just watched a movie called I Love You, Man. Its about a guy who doesnt have any friends and his fiance is woried he may become too clingy. I have that worry. I worry that I will drive my bf away or I will make him dislike things about it. Because of this worry or fear I tend to sometimes be emotional and cry infront of him. I do not like to let him see me cry I want him to never see the empty sad side of ...
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disappointed
Posted Sunday March 22 2009, 10:40 pm
13/F
The problem is that he and my mother got into a big fight and about him not coming home with his complete paycheck which ended in him leaving. He came back and confessed that he had ruined everything he worked for. He is a recovering addict and before he and my ma fought he was hanging with old friends and one of them happened to have drugs and my step father was drunk and had a pocketfull of money and made a really stupid decision. A whole year ruined by one night. I was so proud of him, He was so proud of himself. i dont know what to do. im so disappointed but i feel so bad for him. he and i just sat here and cried while he told me everything. and i all i could think to say was even the strongest ppl. give in. It hurt me so m...
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parents
Posted Wednesday March 18 2009, 10:21 am
How should I approach my girlfriend parents in wanting her back and everything back the way they were because we had a big fight and I shouldn't have involved them but I did and now they must think I am a monster but I am no where near. They think that she may be unsafe with me but only after one misunderstanding I am not normally like this I want to reassure them that I am her safety and I was under a lot of stress also but blew up on the wrong person
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what do you do if your parents accuse you of something you didnt do?
Posted Monday March 16 2009, 10:28 am
what do you do if your parents accuse you of something you didnt do?
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My older sister...
Posted Saturday March 14 2009, 9:34 pm
Okay,
I am 23 and my older sister is 29. We never really had a relationship but I have a facebook and I try to get to know her off the site.
My older sister has 3 young children and one on the way and she's also been married for 5 years.
It bothers me because I as well as my parents feel like she sort of disowned us once she had her first child back in 2006. She never visits my mother and rarely has contact with my father...yet alone her and I are almost complete strangers. It hurts me but there is SO much I want to say to her because I am angry that she never even asked me or my younger sister to be her brides maid at her wedding, and she never calls us or even stops by and when I do t...
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My family dislikes my boyfreind and is spiting me for it
Posted Friday March 13 2009, 12:09 pm
I have an issue where I'm being torn between my family and my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I are the same age , 23. My boyfriend is someone who turned his life around just to be with me.His past was not a good one as he was a former gang member. When he met me three years ago , he changed completely, repented for his sins and is living a normal life. He's extremely smart (the only one in his family to go to college) and very caring towards me. When I introduced him to my family (who are black) there was an instant tension cause not only his past they looked at but the fact that he belongs to another race (east indian). My sister actually went up to him and cursed him out while he just stood there without replying.They believe that people fro...
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His mother HATES me.
Posted Thursday March 12 2009, 10:34 am
19/f
I've been dating my boyfriend for about three months, and even though we are not the same religion, it's not an issue because we're both open-minded and we don't try to push our ideas on each other. But his mother is very religiously Catholic, and she told my bf that she thinks I'm corrupting him because I'm Buddhist. In truth, my bf has been Agnostic for almost 2 years, and I have nothing to do with his religious point of view.
My bf also told his mom that we're sexually active, assuring her that we always have protected sex and that we're in love. His mom flipped, said I was tearing her family apart, and now he and I can't hang out at his house- we have to go out or chill at MY house.
He a...
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It's more then just a difference of opinion now...
Posted Wednesday March 11 2009, 1:44 pm
My younger sister (22) and I (24) have always been pretty different and disagreed on many things. She is an extremely devote catholic (she intends on becoming a nun) and I’m really, just not. For the past few years we always just agreed to disagree and to not talk too much about things we know will only upset us both and disrupt family gatherings. This really works as far as I’m concerned: I don’t need to argue with her and I’m okay with disagreeing with her.
The trouble is lately she’s gotten downright belligerent about it. She sent out an e-mail to a whole bunch of people that included a lot of ‘facts’ about intelligent design and young earth (basically, she said evolution was nonsense and that the world is on...
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