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Financial Problems - Unhelpful Siblings
Posted Saturday June 20 2009, 5:28 pm
I just need someone else I guess to help me plan ahead on what I can do to help my family. I'll try to summarize as best as possible.
- My father lost a trial and is now serving 5 years.
- My mother has been sick since I was 9 with various things (pancreatic cancer, plus more.)
- I have five other brothers and sisters, two younger sisters still living at home and one younger brother is as well.
I came home after I heard my father was going into jail to help out, however, I wasn't given power over accounts or to pay bills or anything. My mother wanted to do it.
My father left a generous sum of money for my family to live off of, and then there was additional money in another account ...
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I found my dads porn tapes and don't know what to do.
Posted Saturday June 20 2009, 10:41 am
Well the title pretty much says it all.
I've come back from uni for the summer and I was tidying up the spareroom and found a tape in the machine. So i know it probably wasn't right of me to watch it but it turns out it was porn! I looked in one of his draws and there's like 7 tapes in there!
I really don't know what to do, I want him to stop doing it. But i don't know what to say to anyone? Or whether i should say anything at all?
I don't think it would bother me so much if he wasn't over 65!!!!!!!!!!!! It's disgusting!! And it's really on my mind loads.
we are moving house soon, so i was thinking maybe i could 'misplace' them in a bin somewhere and he wouldn't notice?
thanks in advance...
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jobs, mom, stress,...urgh.
Posted Friday June 19 2009, 11:10 pm
well ive had a job at dunkin donuts for about a week now. but i only work once a week because there are too many people working there and no one has many hours. -.-'' anyways, so i go in today, and for about thirty minutes, all im doing is standing around doing nothing. everyone has everything covered, im not really needed. the manager even told me that i might have to be sent home early cuz i wasnt needed. this disappointed me, but whatever. then about 45 minutes of doing nothing, i start feeling really dizzy. then i feel nauseous and i start blacking out. so i go to sit down and the lady asks me if i want to go home, since i felt sick. and i said yes. so i called my mom and she said she'd come and get me. when she came to pick me up, all ...
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My family
Posted Thursday June 18 2009, 10:10 pm
14/f
So my family is not at its greatest level. It hasn't been for awhile. I'm not saying its the worst. Cause it can get worse. I'm not complaining, I'm just asking for help.
So I get stressed out so easily. I cry every night. Some of the times I don't know why.
My mom is an alcoholic. My dad fights with her all the time about it. I mean, he drinks too, but its moderate. It kinda scares me because she has gotten way worse. I've always kept these things private. But I opened up to one of my friends since I was crying in school for awhile. She went with me to something for teens with alcoholic parents. Honestly, I didn't feel it would help me. So I didn't go back.
My friend always ...
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Rebelling
Posted Wednesday June 17 2009, 10:26 pm
Iam getting sick and tired of my older sister getting away with anything and everything.
She has more privlagdes than me and is allowed really to do what ever.
I ask my mom one simple question and i get yelled at.I told her im going to just start being like my sister and she she went wild.
My sister is 17 iam 15.
She has a boyfriend and so do i.
She gets to stay the night with her boyfriend unsupervised.
I ask to stay over at mine with supervision
and that was a straight no.
Iam beginning to hate being here.
And feel like i should rebell and do whatever i want just like my sister.
I get compared enough so why not just prove to everyone that i CAN BE EXACTLY THE SAME
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pleasee!
Posted Wednesday June 17 2009, 12:51 am
17/f
i really want my nose pierced, lip pierced, and a tattoo. however i know that my mom will never ever let me get a tattoo and even when i turn 18 she told me if i ever showed up with a tattoo she'd kick me out of the house and be really really really mad. & i know i don't want to get on her bad side. i highly doubt she'd ever let me get my lip pierced, thats also pretty close to never. but if i got it when i was like 18 or whatever, i don't think she'd kick me out. however, when i asked her if i could get my nose pierced their was a short pause before she said no. & it seemed like she would kind of consider letting me get it. i really really want my nose pierced. what can i say or do to make her let me get it? any...
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traveling with some bands.
Posted Tuesday June 16 2009, 6:45 pm
in a few days i'm going to be tagging along with a good friend of mine while he tours around the country. he is a singer and in a band, and two other bands will be with us. i'm 18 years old & i'm sooo excited. however, i'm kind of nervous. i'm not a groupie. i'm really good friends with the lead singer of the one band. & were not dating or anything, but i'm not sure if it will turn into anything. when he was back here again any where him and i went their was girls throwing themselves at him. i actually got really jealous.. he used to like me, but we couldn't date because of him touring all the time. he dropped out of high school & so all hes been doing since last year is touring, nonstop pretty much. he might even be touring ag...
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its quite long..but very important..i need MAJOR advice ASAP
Posted Monday June 15 2009, 6:47 pm
i live with my grandparents and they went to a city about twenty miles away from where we lived and they were supost to be there for quite a long time. well they took one truck and left our newest one at home, and my brother who is 17, and doesnt live with me, stopped by and we were hangin out and stuff and he had this brilliant idea to take their NEW chevy silverado out for a lil cruise, and so i said sure go ahead but i aint goin cause that truck was like my gpas pride n joy and he doesnt trust my brother with his possesions cause he has a bad history of "stealing, and wreckless driving" and i knoew if my brother got caught he would be in sum BIG trouble lol so i decided to stay..and he left for a bit and he came back, well he w...
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I broke my aunt's piano in accident... no one knows.
Posted Monday June 15 2009, 7:03 am
Oh my goodness. Somebody please help me. I haven't slept all night because the guilt is killing me!
Okay, so yesterday I went to hang out with my cousin his girlfriend and a friend.
We all went back to my cousin's house and hung out there. Then my friend and I went downstairs to the living area to play the piano a bit.
I pressed on the 1st and left pedal, and since no one ever uses it (grand piano, long and elegant by the way), and i felt the piano move to the side a bit, but i didnt see or hear anything else. neither did my friend.
THEN as we were leaving and i was closing the lid... i saw a long crack on the top, whats itcalled, a cabinet? desktop? not sure
but above the l...
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Birthday
Posted Sunday June 14 2009, 11:49 pm
Okay, so my birthday is Tuesday, and my dad is going to be out of town. I'm going to be 15, and I realize things happen. So my parents gave my my presents today (Sunday) so that he would be here and I wouldn't have to wait. Well, I got one of those mini-laptops. I don't like it. My mom knows this and I said thank you, because it is the thought that counts. I said I like the idea, its just way to small for me, I don't like the key bored. She said she understood and would return it and i could get something I liked. Now, my question, What should I get? I have a cell phone, ipod, and camera, all good. No new ones needed. I'm looking for something electronic, I can't get a big lap top, and I have a TV, ideas?
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My friend and her tarot card reading..
Posted Sunday June 14 2009, 9:35 pm
hello there! well, my friend went to a tarot card reading today. it more so told her about her present, the person verified a lot of things.things like-your in a difficult relationship-"your boyfriend isn't phisically abusive but mentally" and was like "if you do not get out of the realtionship this will be you (she flipped the card over and it was a cloaked person). She continued to say "You will be unhappy and lonely with him, i'm am worried for you" then she said something like "however if you do decide to leave him.." (she then flipped over a card that had some kind of happy thing in it- don't remember) "you will be happy and victorious". (its more detailed,but thats just the basic things tha...
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His ex is on a mission to out me (long)
Posted Thursday June 11 2009, 5:54 pm
I am in a relationship with a man who has been divorced 4 years. I have children, and so does he. We all have a good time. I really love this man, and we live together. His family thinks we are good together, and we both can see the long haul.
His ex hates me, and will do anything to keep me from being around her children. She blames me for the separation, wants me to go away. In three years I have seen her twice, but each time she has flipped out, caused a scene, and been really angry.
She punishes the kids if they are around me.
I think they just wish I would go away so everything would be simple.
I have known his kids for about two years, and we have a good relationship, but they really love the...
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my mom's new GUY friend (she's married).
Posted Wednesday June 10 2009, 6:33 pm
this guy, A, and my mother recently reconnected from high school together. (theyre in their 40s now.)
hes always here, hes become close with our entire family to sleep over here on our couch, but almost every day when i come home from school, his truck is in our driveway. him and my mother used to date when they were in high school. she said he was her first love. she only does things she normally doesnt do when he's around, like, go to the beach, order in pizza, or ride his fcking motorcycle. hes a nice guy, im not denying it, but its just that this connection bothers me because my dad is supposed to be the only guy in my moms life (.. in my point of view.) hes not the jealous type, and he knows theyre friends, but it just bothers ...
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should i runaway from my mom for my dad who malested me?
Posted Wednesday June 10 2009, 10:42 am
my mother is constantly talking about my father and me because now she knows we talked after he malested me ....my dad says that i can runaway and come live with him but i am scared but on the other hand i want to get away from my motyher although i love her ahe is a pain in the a@! so im not sure if i should goim torn i have not seen my dad in almost three years and since i have not seen him i have not seen my brothers or sisters tell me what i should do please
Before i lose my mind!!!!!!
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Smoking
Posted Tuesday June 9 2009, 8:40 am
Okay well my lifes pretty good. except for the fact that my mom is on and off with smoking. how do i get her to stop?! or at least try to stop?!
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I hate my family.
Posted Tuesday June 9 2009, 1:00 am
This is getting me frustrated. Everytime I say something when my family doesnt hear it. They react like I had said something bad when they say what. That gets me so scared cause its like they snapped before I could even react. NO what I mean. Its like they dont want me around anymore and that I am wasting my time with them. I just feel so misunderstood. No one wants to help me go get counseling. I dont even have a job. And dont tell me to get a job and move out cause I really can not get a job right now. I hate my family so much its all about me that is why the reason their life is hard. Uuhhggg I need to move the hell out.
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Probs with the MAA.
Posted Monday June 8 2009, 5:16 pm
Aiight. I will try to keep this as simple as possible I guess. So, I am a 16 year old female (will be turning 17 in less than a week,) and I have been dating this guy for over a year now. I had previously dated him before, blah blah backround. So now; My dilemma. My mother (I swear,) is a decendant of Hitler or something, and blatently refuses to allow me to date him (though I am?). She refuses to accept his existence, when I do not even like her own boyfriend who lives in my house that much, and I try to respect him. She will not even give this kid a chance even if he tried. So, is there any way to try to talk to her, because I have on other occasions and she just refuses to listen and doesn't care. All she does is call him a loser because...
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MY dads a predator but i stll want to talk to him
Posted Monday June 8 2009, 8:54 am
my da malested me a long time ago but i still love and want to talk to him i still keep in contact through facebook but my mom found out and now we argue everyday i told her that i would not stop talking to my dad and the other day we got into this huge arguement what should i do..
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Parents Divorce
Posted Monday June 8 2009, 4:24 am
My parents got a divorce when I was 19. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal because I'm an adult, but it had a much bigger effect on my life than I could have imagined. It's been a little over 2 years now, and now they do not have any contact with each other what-so-ever. I have a good relationship with my mom, but not with my dad, although I try for his sake. My dilemma is that I don't know how to handle a lot of the situations I am going through without having a cohesive family. I got married without a wedding. I felt that I wouldn't be able to have one with how screwed up my family is. I have another milestone coming up: college graduation. I would like if some of my extended family could come, and my mom would probably like for me to ha...
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Failing communication and broken trust
Posted Monday June 8 2009, 1:19 am
I've been getting along with my parents. Well, at least before i started to have my own ideas and plans. We think differently;we have different points of view, priorities, which often leads to disappointments and argumenments. On the other hand, my older sister is a goodie goodie that never has a problem with my moms plans. I know that my mom favours her more and I think I know why, but yet I really want to change the relationship for the better. Its getting tough to talk to her now, and lately, shes been losing trust in me too. I mean, I am only 13. How can I live with that for the rest of my life if this stays like this?
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