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im 15/f i have many fam problems as well as social. i am really one of the nicest, friendliest people in my school, not excatly popular but i am semi-friends with the popular kids and other people. but i honestly dont have friends besides a couple who barely ever want to go out. i cant deal with this i need friends that will stick with me i hate this town i dont even know what to do with my life everythings wrong, everything. i want to go to a diff school in a diff town.. how can i approach my father telling him (link)
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oi. i wrote a nice response and i accidently touched somethin and *poof* it went >< okay. hehe. to start over :)
Anywyas.
HELLO!!! :D
Well here this is my personal view upon your situation and i'll try to help as much as i possibly can. But do forgive me please if I am not of much help. v.v
So to start. You have some WONDERFUL qualities going for you there! Being friendly and nice are qualities that most often people are attracted to. The key of making friends is to introduce yourself, say hello, make an effort to have a conversation, and then always say hi and attempt to make conversation whenever you see them :) Always have confidence in yourself because people are attracted to confidence in people. Sometimes some people with lack of confidence can bring down the atmosphere in the room. ><
About being "popular." You shouldn't worry about being at such a level. Just be yourself. Take a moment to think to yourself, what is "popular"? Is it that crowd of people over there who everyone deems to be "popular"? You don't need to be "popular" to be socially excepted. Popularity won't matter in the future. Discussing with my friend what popularity was with my friend the other day we settled that there is no such thing as popularity. To be popular is to have friends that care for you. It maybe one or two, but that is enough. Its hard to find true friends.“If out of all mankind one finds a single friend, he has found something more precious than any treasure, since there is nothing in the world so valuable that it can be compared to a real friend.”-Andrea Capallanus Think how many of the people you will keep in touch with after high school? Or even if you keep in touch with them, how many of them will keep in touch with you. I must say, from experience, that keeping in touch with people is a task that is very difficult and although I may try very hard to keep in touch others may not.
If you want to grow closer to people, invite them out yourself. From my experience from recently just moving I have realize that people are not going to invite you out. You must invite them out. Get a gathering going, say lets go to the mall, beach, ice skating, etc. With the friends and not close friends this is a perfect oppertunity to become closer friends.
Send yourself out there. Join clubs, groups, sports, expand your interests. Take it up into your own hands to meet people. I have confidence in you. Show your good qualities to people. People will love your friendly nature. Just becareful don't get involved with the wrong crowds. Strengthen your current friendships, and water the seeds of new ones.
If you still insist of moving schools, let me state that it is never a good idea in running away from your problems. To run from one problem, you'll run into another one and have to deal with that one, or run. You can't run all your life, at somepoint you will have to face them and challange them, you will overcome it as long as you believe you can. You can defeat it. The outcome of it is all in your hands. But if you insist on moving schools, movin city's may be a difficul task, but transfering schools is probably a possibility. Depending on how open you are with your father, tell him your problem straight out just explain you feel out of place and would like to go to this school. Or if your not that open, say you would like to go to this other school because of this certain program they ahve that the other schools don't. But you have to excell int hat program you choose to participate in. But do note that moving from one school to another to escape a problem may not be the answer, and you may only make your situation worse. At a new school, from experience, that some schools have cliques. And not all of these cliques are friendly enough to allow new people in. You must be ready to face a greater problem, for you may feel even more out of place. I wish you all the luck in your future and your next step you choose to take in life. I'm sorry if i wasn't of much help, but I tried. I felt as if i could relate just a little bit being that i just moved and i have felt out of place for the longest of time, things are comming together for me now. I hope they do for you too.
Forever and always remember you have a friend here.
< eeks. time for me to sleep. NIGHTZ! :D i really hope i helped :) GOOD LUCK*
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i have this really good guy friend, and he's always really nice to me and treats me really well. but as far as other girls go, he cheats on them, talks bad about them, and completely uses them. he's tried to get me into a physical relationship w/ him a couple of times, and each time i've sternly told him no, because i know what happens to every one of his girlfriends ... the problem is now, that his current girlfriend is my good friend. i don't want to see her get hurt the same way he hurts every other girl who crosses that line with him, and i tried to explain to her that he can be a total jerk to his girlfriends.... but because i spend so much time w/ him (he's a close friend), now she thinks i like him, and that i'm just jealous... which is 100% not true. i would never go out with him... ever. i'm smarter than that. but anyway, what do i do... do i let him break her heart? and how do i get her to understand that i'm not trying to steal her man? (link)
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Well.. in addition to getting your guy friends former girl friends to talk to your friend, possibly talk to your guy friend, and tell him how important it is that he treats your friend with well, and if he does end up breaking her heart by his actions, i guess the best thing you can do is be there for her, don't be like " i told you so" just be the good friend you are and help her through the tough time she is going through.
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