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Well.. everyone needs advice even me.. but some people have been through a bit more that others so thats where i come in..im just here if you need someone to pour out your feelings to when theres no one else. Everyone needs a little help once in awhile :-D im sure ill be able to help you in SOME way..you'd be surprised what ive delt with.

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i have this friend who is constantly being abused by her parents. she doesnt really tell anybody about it, and made me SWEAR i wouldnt tell anyone about it. I told her that she shouldnt have to live with it and she should tell someone (the inspector people have been to her house like 10 times already, but she denies everything). She said that the only reason is that she doesnt confess to the abuse is that she doesnt want to leave her friends cuz they are all she has.

This Abuse is REALLY serious... like life threatening. (boiling water, knives, hot irons, chemicals, physical abuse...) i dont want to sit back and watch her get hurt, but i dont want to hurt our friendship either... PLEASE HELP!

idk what to say but tell your parents and ask them to report it to authorities, maybe even have your friend spend the night the same night they do call so she doesnt get abused further when her parents are caught.this is realy serious and you definately need to take serious action about it..not doing anything will only make it worse and if you don't do anything later you might wish that you had...

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well i have always been a girl how has gotten loads of guys but now that im in 8th grade i cant find anyone that interrest me id ont feel like i really connect to any guys at my school they all r too stupid, too ugly/nerdy, or just plain boring! i want a long term boyfriend but none of them seem to be like that and i have done stuff with boys and now all these boys want some and that is all they want they seem to not notice that im fun adn cool all they want is sex sex sex what is with these boys should i just want and trya nd find someone good for me or should i just go out with anyone and hope that they r mr.right?

Def. don't just g/o/w anyone because that won't get you a very good reputation..but i mean don't rush things next year you'll be in highschool and then you'll have loads of guys to choose from! don't worry if you cant find any guys right now worth it...because it will make it just even more special when you find someone worth it! hope it was if not any help at least some encouragement!

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What should you do if you have fallin for your best friend and you kno it wont work because shes not like that?

it depends do you mean you're a girl and by saying she's not like that you mean she's not a lesbian or bi or anything? i realy can't help that much bc im not sure what exactly you're referring to..

..sorry

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Ok where can I begin. There is this girl I like right. And I think that if I asked she might just go out with me. But I am not as popular as this girl and she has popular friends just like her. I am afraid that if I ask her out and she says no that it would be spread around the whole school becasue I doubt that they could keep a secret. And if she said yes that they would make fun of her . What should I do?

well...no-one is ever gonna remember how popular people were when you get older so why worry about it now? if she likes you go for it i mean who cares if people talk if ya'll are happy together that is all that matters and you'll see that if ya'll really do love each other than you won't care what people say because 9 times out of 10 they're just damn jealous! lol hope i could help some!

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I am 14 and my boyfriend and I have been going out for i think about 6 months now.hes great i couldnt ask for more i think i wanna be with him forever...but he keeps mentioning how we should have sex With protection..but im still a little unsure because i know im to young to have a kid.but wehn he brings it up all i say is yea we should..please help me

if i do have sex how do i do it? HELP

Well about the first part...I definately think 14 is a bit young...and plus think about this..if you did "do it" then you KNOW that he will tell people..even if he says he won't it WILL get around..bc a guy can't just keep that kind of thing to himself... And when it gets around you'll haveto be prepared to live with the new reputation that will come with it.. Because believe me people will talk...and what if you do get pregnet? Scary huh? But you know what? You b.f also could just be saying that knowing that you won't do it but unless ya'll are seriously M/O and stuff and you get close to doin it but never do then maybe he's all talk...guys say things to sound cool to their guy friends you know? ...and on the how to do it part... i Def. don't know how! lol but i have found out by looking at a random persons advice column that the 1st time HuRtS...soo idk if that's any help...wish i could be some help..but all in all my advice is..don't do it. Because if you guys acualy do plan on being together for awhile then waiting a little longer will just make that first time all the more special..don't rush things you'll regret it..trust me.

-->hope i helped!
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is it hoping for too much if you want to marry your bf someday?

Definately not.. i mean if your just going out with some one for the heck of it you're wasting your time! You should be with someone hoping you'll last a very long time..even if you end up not. I have someone in mind that i've always secretly hoped in my mind that I'd marry someday (no he's not famous either!)and you must think that everything will be perfect when that day will..come..because it WILL be perfect! even if it's not with your current BF everything happens for a reason and if ya'll break up that's ok..because i've known people who are married who went out when they were freshmens broke up before the end of the year and went back out as seniors and now are married and have 2 kids! You don't know what's going to happen in the future so just live it up now and hope for the best..because the best is yet to come!

--> i hope i could help some!

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Yeah well i like this guy alot but he really hurt my feelings. He keeps telling me he likes me but then he just keeps hurting me. I dont know if i should keep liking him or not or just forget about him. I really do like him alot what should I do?

well...this guy seems to be a bit cOnFuSeD himself! I mean you can't just ignore your feelings and stop likeing him but here's the thing...if he says he likes you and he realy does then he wouldn't hurt your feelings..he'd be doing everything he could to make it up to you too! It also seems like maybe he's just afraid to like you too much so having you mad at him kind of prevents him from getting to involved at the moment you know? Try to keep it at a friendly level (it'll make you feel worse by hating him...trust me..been there done that)and if things don't get any better or he just continues to hurt your feelings just explain to him this..(in your own words of course) I realy value our friendship and it hurts me that it might have to end..but if not talking to you for awhile is going to solve you hurting my feelings and us being mad at each other or whatever than i think thats best..you can still like him just don't sugar coat things to your h.e.a.r.t...the last thing i have to say is a quote that is very much over used but it helps to be reminded..

..Don't cry over Someone who won't cry over you..
..and the only person worth crying for....will
.n.e.v.e.r. make you cry..

-->hope I could be a little help! keep me posted!
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Hmm lets see i want a really long relationship with a guy but all the guys seem to be dicks and it only last a week so whats going on do i have a problem

You def. DONT have a problem!! Right now it seems alot of girls are having the same problem..including me! I mean guys seem to be just wanting to hook up and then break up..and thats not what we're looking for! So try this..(its what im doing)..look around and if you find a guy who seems interested in you then talk to him and before you hook up make sure you both know what each other wants. That way if he tells you that he's not that into a long term thing then you can avoid getting REALY hurt and maybe get to know each other better and later on have when he's ready you'll have a long term deal. But all situations are differant and for me I'm just trying to wait it out and hope that I'll find someone..I know its hard when all your friends have good relationships but don't rush things because that might make things worse.
--> i hope i could help!

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