Member Since: November 13, 2007
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I am SICk of sucking up to people but i don't no how to say no.
I jsut hate ti when people have any negative feelings towards me, even like the slightest feeling of annoyed.
Everyone knows that I have some money so they always ask for money but I need the money to last me a week for lunch and i can't say no so I'll give them like 1 dollar
and then in two days, no money.
what should i do? (link)
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I had this problem.
But i fixed it.
The advice i was given by a dear friend was: The people that you need to suck up to in order for them to like you arnt that really that great of people if they need sucking up to.I did a reality check and turns out these people treated me like crap anyways. And also you live your life, dont let people's thoughts get in the way of you eating or doing what you want. Hows what they think going to mater in the long run?? I have to ask myself if im careing about myself first before caring about others.
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one of my friends is ali and ive known her ever since kindergarten. well i also play on a soccer team with her.
another one of my friends, but not as close, is rachel.(i go to school w/ her, but not w/ ali)
well just recently, we needed one more person on out soccer team to play in the league. so i ask rachel if she wanted to play with us and she said yes
well ali and rachel didnt really know eachother very well, but i introduced them
they have known eachother for about a month and a half now. (im also good friends with rachel's sister, alexa)
when i called alexa one day, she told me that she was at the mall w/ ali and rachel
at first i was kind of "shocked" that they were hanging out with ali, but it didnt really matter
well then i looked at rachel's myspace and ali was her top friend and in her heroes section, it talks about how ali is her "wifey" and they have a pet whale or something like that (i know that myspace doesnt mean a lot, but still.)
i guess im getting kind of jealous because i feel like they dont even know eachother and they are ditching me to hang out with eachother
is it wrong to feel like this? it just sucks really bad because i feel like they "shouldnt that good of friends"
so what do i do? i just feel so left out
(and i asked rachel if she was friends with ali now, and she just shrugged and said "i guess so")
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First, be happy they are friends because that means that they dont hate each other and you dont have to split you time between them. Second, As far as you feeling left out, you should let them know you feel. They cant fix a problem if they dont see it. Its perfectly understandable to want to spend time with both your friends and if they are true friends they will take how you feel into cosideration. I know that everyone says you cant have a group of three friends, but if you want a group like that its posable.I know i have 2 really close friends and we all make it clear when we feel left out. 3 years we have been so close! They are the best thing....so if you WANT to all 3 of you can have an alsome relationship you just have to share how you feel.
-Hannah
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