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One of my friends, Lizzy, is always talking about her friend, Kate. It didn't bother me until I realized how much Kate hates me. Kate once went on Lizzy's screenname on AIM and started saying "I hate you!!" and stuff like that. When I told Lizzy, she said, "I'm going to kill Kate, I am so mad at her!" but they are still best friends. Also, Lizzy talks about all this stuff she hates and when I do, she says its not that bad. And she is always saying blondes are dumb, which they truely aren't and it bothers me to hear people say that. But when I told her it bothered me she just said "Its only a joke." K, so today I said, "wow, Mrs. F really acted like a cheerleader today!" and she said "most cheerleaders aren't ditzy."
K, she said blonde jokes as a joke, I realize it...so when I say the cheerleader thing as a joke, why should she get all mad? She's not a cheerleader, but I am a blonde. blondes aren't dumb. I told her that!
PLEASE HELP ME! WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER WHEN I TALK TO HER?????? (link)
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It sounds as if you and your friend Lizzy are at different points in that awkward time of "finding out who you are." Keep contact with Lizzy, you don't want to burn any bridges as a teen, but look around you and see who else you could hang out with these days. Is there anyone who shares your interests? Try joining a new club at school and see what happens.In the meantime, try not to have any convos about Kate with Lizzy. Just keep your talks with Lizzy short and simple until the drama blows over.
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