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First off- yes, I am real. Please do not send me questions asking me if I am real. They will be ignored. I'm not here for publicity- I'm here for YOU. I reccently got a Myspace to keep in touch with fans and post occasional updates on my life and Gilmore Girls. Since then, I have become fascinated with the internet for communication purposes. My friend found this website, and joked around about how I should get one. I decided to give it a shot, afterall, what do I have to lose? I have to admit that I'm not the best at giving advice, but I'll do my best. Just as I'd loved to read all of the emails I get, I would love to read all of your questions, but I may not respond immediately. I doubt I will be on here much, probably about the same time I spend on Myspace, which is not a lot. I will always try to be there for my fans, because they have been so supportive toward me throughout the years and it would be my greatest pleasure to help them by any means neccessary. I was once a teenage girl and I know I thing about girl troubles. When I was a young girl, I read the American Girl advice columns. I always wanted to be an advice columnist, to be respected and looked up to, and to be able to help others with their problems. I'll do my best to answer your questions, but please forward all fan messages to my Myspace, or to my fan email address: LaurenGrahamMyspace@yahoo.com.
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Hey Lauren,
Well, when I was little, I was taken away from my real mom, and my grandparents took me. She was not a good mom to be living with. Anyway, my grandparents opened a church, and a lady there called me her adopted daughter, and her whole family called me theirs, cause her sister was the pastor. But about a month ago, the pastor quit, and Of course, my adopted mom and her sister, left. And they promised me, that I'd always be a part of things. But I've been getting a cold shoulder. And I don't know what to do. I was always attatched. I guess it just hurts. I miss them. I wish I could just get over it, and face the fact that I really don't have a mom. So do you have any advice?
p.s. I love you! And I love your show. I actually went to the set once, and saw you! :)
Love,
Robyn
Hi Robyn, thanks for writing to me.
I've had a lot of family issues as well. It sounds very hard to have to go through something like that, but I have no doubt that you will pull through. You could send a letter to your adoptive mother explaining how you feel. It was wrong of her family to cut you off, but you said that she only called you her adopted daughter? (I'm assuming it wasn't official/legal.) If it had been official, she could not have cut you off like that. As I mentioned, you could try to contact her, or better, someone in her family.
But if all else fails, you may feel you want to move on. If you know of ANY family member from your family, try to contact them. Be glad that you have at least some family. If you don't, there is always a chance to get adopted (as crazy as that sounds.) I reccently read a story about a 40 year old woman who placed an ad in a newspaper and got a real, loving adoptive family. I realize that's a little extreme, but the other option is to start a family of your own someday. Eventually, things will fall into place.
Love,
Lauren Graham
I'm still in love with my ex. I was devastated when he broke up with me. I miss him and want him back and think about him all the time. Its been 6 months and I've never been hung up on anyone this long. While we've had limited contact in the name of "staying friends" he's never indicated that he wants to reconcile. And if he did, I don't think it would be a good idea because I'm too scared of being hurt by him anymore. How do I move on?
You are smart to know that getting back together with him is most likely a bad idea. I have gotten back together with many exes, and it has only caused me more pain. Getting over someone you really loved can be hard, and it certainly won't happen by doing nothing, and just hoping that the problem will fix itself. I find that the best way to get over an ex, is to get out there, and just enjoy your life. Perhaps spending more time with your girlfriends (or family) will take your mind off of him. Organizing parties, and going to social events is not only a good opportunity to take your mind off of him, but it's a great opportunity to meet someone new. This is going to sound corny, but try taking a mental vacation. Relieve stress by trying yoga or repeating mantras. ("I am beautiful", etc.) Exercise can also take your mind off of these stressful events, and it increases certain endorphins in your body that make you feel happy. Have fun, take chances, and be open to new people! Don't let one guy change your perception of all guys!
Thanks for writing,
Lauren Graham
Dear Lauren
My name is Karleen and I am 14 and i have a HUGE problem with my brother and his friends they are over at my house EVERYDAY and they are really annoying oh and they are really rude and mean to me and my sister so what should I do
Hi Karleen, thanks for writing to me.
Brothers can be a huge pain! Believe me, I have a younger brother. You probably have tried to tell your brother and his friends to stop, but a lot of times that doesn't work. If they're really bothering you, you should tell a parent. Since whining and complaining gets you nowhere, talk to your parents in a mature voice and really let them know how much your brother and his friends are bothering you. Sugguest creating a new rule, such as your brother's friends can only come over three days a week.
If your parents are unwilling to help, you should try to avoid the situation completely. Go to a friends house, hang out at the mall or the library, or you could even try inviting some friend's over. If your friends are unable to hang out, you may want to stay in your room and lock the door. (It works, I did that a lot when I was younger.)
Hope I helped,
Lauren Graham
I want to be an actress yet Im not very great at it I really want to be like you and alexis but no one seems to believe in me anymore. help :[
~Emily P.
Hi Emily, thank you for writing to me.
Don't give up on your dreams. Many people did not believe in me either, and that can hurt. Self-confidence gets you the farthest, even more so than support from your family and peers. I know you can do it. Check out programs or classes around your neighborhood or at your school that offer acting experiences. I know of a great site- Writers and Books (wab) that offers some drama classes if there are none at your school. If your school puts on any musicals, get involved in those. Your school would probably love to have you participate. Don't give up !
Love, Lauren Graham
Hii! i have sum boy trouble. see, theres tis guy, tommy, and hes never had a girlfriend. i like him alot n he likes me too, cept i will be his first ever girlfriend. i think he is nervous and idk wat to do?
Well, take it slow. You never want to rush anyone when it comes to dating. You sound very confident, so I would say, go for it and ask him out. If he's still a little nervous, try hanging out as friends, or with a group of friends at a public place like the mall. He will eventually come around. I had tons of boy troubles when I was younger too. It's always good to establish a friendship first and then work your way from there.
Thanks for writing to Me!
Lauren Graham
I want to pursue a career in acting, similar to yours. I would like to be on drama TV series, such as some on the WB. Tips?
Keep your grades up in school, and take many acting classes if your highschool offers them. That way, you can get an idea about acting and specifically, what kind you would like to do. it sounds like you are pretty sure of what you want to do, but continue to try a bunch of different things. Ask your curricular advisor about any organizations that work with your highschool. And with the internet these days, it is always easy to find actor's organizations online. Good Luck! I wish you much success!
Dear Lauren,
I'm 14 and I'll be going into highschool. I'm really nervous because I want to make friends, but it can be hard for me to make friends & I would really like to know should I just go for it and take a chance? What was it like when you were in highschool?
Don't sweat it. Highschool is a great experience. You will have a lot more freedom and be introduced to a wider variety of people. Take a chance and introduce yourself to new people. Other people will probably be looking to make new friends as well.
When I was in highschool, I was a bit nerdy! I had a group of friends that I hung out with, of course, I wasn't really attached to anyone. I got my first boyfriend in ninth grade, which is something you will probably experience sometime in highschool if you haven't already. I kept my grades up, which helped me to get into in acting career. Get good grades and you will go far!
Love, Lauren Graham
Hello Lauren, it is so nice to see you on here, I think what you are doing is really great! I won't go off about how much I ADORE Gilmore Girls, but I do have a question. I am a 23 year old single mother and I sometimes get very lonely and depressed.
I just wish that there was someone there to help me take care of my daughter, Gia. I am getting by fine and all, but all of my friends are getting married and I feel like an outcast when I'm around them. Any advice?
Hang in there! You are a mother and you should be proud. it is not easy to be a mom, and your girlfriends should respect that. If you have family, ask them for some extra support. Afterall, that's what family is for. You can also find a trustworthy babysitter to watch your daughter occasionally if you want to have a girls' night out. Don't give up hope about finding your perfect match. Just because your last relationship didn't work out, doesn't mean that future ones won't. Hope I helped!
Lauren Graham