18, female.
i'll be the first to admit, i stress myself out. i try to do everything to the best of my ability and that means i have high standards of myself and put alot of pressure on me. i know i try hard, at everything i do but it never seems like its enough. as being a freshman in college living at home, and finals three days away im going insane. work, was always something that got my mind off everything because i work with kids and i loved it. i still love the job part but i HATE the manager, and some of the people working there. the manager is so unprofessional, he talks about everyone behind their back and rarely confronts you to your face. i'm a very emotional person and ONE time, he sort of yelled at me for doing something wrong and i started tearing up, but i tried so hard not to cry. i think he is going to fire me, and i heard it from other people. tonight this girl alysha, went into his office to talk to him and she was like sorry am i annoying you? and he was like no your not but some other people working tonight are, i'm going to fire three people after the holidays. and i just know one of them is me. there was only like 5 of us working tonight? and this boy derek was like did mike (our manager) talk to you yet? and i was like no, why? and he was like oh never mind, and i was like no tell me and he was like no, nevermind. i'm just scared if he talks to me, i'll start crying and i DONT want to do that, and i will freak out on him because i do have a very low tolerance, and i'll start going off on him. he has favorites, and it bugs me so much. i just hate looking for new jobs, but i would rather quit, then be fired because that looks horrible. i just dont know what to do! i've been working there for like 10 months now, i love the job but i just dont think i can work there anymore :[ and i am pretty much broke, making car payments and insurance. paying for gas every 4 days and now christmas coming up and paying for SCHOOL. my grandma is in the hospital, not doing well at all. my friends, i barely get to see them anymore, i feel like i dont want to see anyone, i just want to sit in my room and cry. withing the past 3 months ive lost 10 pounds and i have no idea how. my whole body aches, probably from stress. i just dont know what to do, i'm so miserable. my parents said they feel so bad for me, they understand what i'm going through and they're supportive and i know they will always be there for me but i just feel like i can't get through it, i cant take the pain anymore..it's one thing after another always
That's a major drag :/ You certainly do have many sources of stress. Heck, I relate to most of those. But the choices really are simple. Stand tall, or give in. We gotta attack the roots of the stress.
Your manager sounds like quite a tool. You may love that job but if this guy is affecting you this much, how long can you keep taking it? I suggest starting to look for some other kind of job, because eventually this emotional stress will take its toll.
And god I can relate to the financial trouble, its real hard these days. If you haven't already, apply for the FAFSA and search hard for scholarships to help ease some of this weight off your shoulders. Your university should have a Financial Aid office somewhere.
But this is the hardest part. Stress really can take people down hard. All this stuff becomes like a whirlwind in your mind that can't be calmed. But it can. Take 5 or 10 minutes out of your day to just sit and relax. Realize that the world is full of people like your manager, but there could be a job out there that you would love even more. Your lucky to have parents that empathize with you, and you will get through this. But I won't deny that it will take sheer willpower, and a real goal in mind. What is it that you want to do? What dreams do you have? When stress brought me to the lowest low, it was those dreams and wants that kept me going. Keep going for those dreams, for a job without a douchebag manager, for getting that degree and living an awesome life. This is really all I can tell you; if your strong and take action then eventually your problems will shrink to nothing, and whatever you wanted in life will be yours. I hope this helped a little bit; good luck.
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I've gone to the point in my life that I just feel stuck. Same boring things repeated everyday. No new, exciting things to lift my mood. My friends bore me, it seems like they've just gone together and left me behind. No knowlegde of what I want to do in the future (I'm a senior in hs). I dont like where i live, yet, I'm not allowed nor even brave enough to try something new, to go to another college out of town. No romance...ever. It seems to me like every little thing that would bring laughter or inspire me to do things is no longer there. I've either gotten bored of my boring life or just really need prozac. Help?
Trust me, getting into that kind of dead routine is the last thing you want to do. But you gotta realize that if you do the same things, you GET the same things. I think you know that if you want change, you have to swallow your fear and work at it. So to make different things happen, go out and do different things. Join a club. Talk to strangers. Find a cool hobby. Think of it this way. You only know for sure that you have this one life. Do you really want to waste it just living a boring, mediocre life? Or do you want that ideal life that, for now, only exists in your head? Whatever it is, you gotta take some risks. Start slow, but you slowly have to ease out of that comfort zone. Anyone can be brave and have a exciting life, its those barriers in our own mind that stop us. There's a whole world out there, with things to do, people to see, and stuff to learn. Don't miss out on it. Good Luck.
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