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Last Labor Day, we allowed our 11-year-old son “Brian” to spend the long weekend at the fishing cabin of his best friend Logan; we had our doubts about this, since Logan's mom was alwys kind of a flakey neighbor, but Logan’s family was then moving out-of-state, so this was the last chance the boys would have to spend time together. Brian had a wonderful time. Flash forward six months: I receive a belated holiday letter from Logan’s mom, explaining that she was finally getting organized after their move, and was enclosing a disc of photos taken during Brian’s weekend at the cabin. Most of the pictures are innocuous: the kids climbing trees, toasting marshmallows around the campfire, etc. But there are also a dozen photos of Brian and Logan completely naked, playing in the river and on the beach. These pictures leave nothing to the imagination--you can tell who is circumcised and who is not in every shot. Logan’s younger sister is in a couple of the photos as well.
When we asked Brian, he acknowledged that the kids went skinny dipping whenever they went to the river, and said that Logan’s mother had an album which had lots of naked photos of Logan, and so it all seemed okay at the time. We had no idea when we allowed Brian to go that Logan’s mother would be photographing him in the buff. I am furious with this woman, and I want these pictures deleted before they wind up on the internet, but I don’t know what to do. Our lawyer says that in our state such photos are not illegal if they are not sexual in nature, and the best she could do is write to Logan‘s mother and ask her to erase any photos of Brian. My husband says we shouldn't antoganize her, since there is no way we could know if she actually erased the pictures, and we should just chalk it up to experience. We also don’t know what to do with the disc: Brian wants it himself, and says the disc was of his trip, and was sent to him (the envelope was addressed to me). I’m afraid if he keeps it, his sister may get hold of it and show the pictures at school, as she has been teasing him she will do. Any ideas on what to do?
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My answer is not brilliant! I just believe that this is not too big of a deal with the matter of skinny dipping. I think this part is innocent. Boys skinny dipping together is fun in this type of situation (even if a girl is there as long as this is a non sexual situation). Boys and girls and curious and if we can do something to help ease this by "skinny dipping" I do not think it does harm. My biggest concern is that pictures were taken. These can easily end up on the "Net" and that is it! They are there forever. They are now forever being looked at in a sexual manner by some perverted minds. So in my opinion skinny dipping is not a problem but NO CAMERAS SHOULD EVER BE ALLOWED. Lastly, the final decision is up to each childs parents. None of our opinions matter except the parents of the individual children. I do agree that these pictures should be destroyed. They were not innocent pictures taken of their own children. No one has the right to take naked pictures of other peoples children. My very best of luck to you.
A father of two young boys who is angry to with you!
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