Member Since: June 23, 2022
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How do I look big and strong and like an "adult"? Basically I'm going to be a 16 year old boy..I'm thin and have acne..how do I get rid of acne,and gain weight and grow even more taller? Because if I eat fatty foods (to grow big and tall and strong), I'll get acne..and vice versa..I'm really stuck on what I should do..im eating a decent amount of food...I'm washing my face twice a day,and I'm putting some acne medicines) Should I switch to a specific medicine? Should I do some specific workout exercises? Should I eat something specific? Or will my acne go away in some time(if yes,when?) and when will I gain weight and height? ( if yes,when?) And at what age will I start to look like an "adult"? (link)
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Acne is tough: see if you can get a Dr appt and see about doxycycline. Gaining weight is protein and carbs. Meats and pasta. Building muscle requires working out. Join a gym or look into body weight home exercises. Push ups, squats, moving heavy stuff. Workout daily eating prior and after as well.
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My daughter is 14 and I’ve been married to my husband since she was three. He has always been there for her as a great stepdad. My daughter’s room is downstairs and even though she is 14 he still goes downstairs every night to sleep next to her after I fall asleep at 3:00am. Then comes back up every morning around 7am. I know nothing is going on and my daughter is completely comfortable around him, she says nothing but good things. I have talked to her and she insists that she is fine with him doing this. However, I am not fine with this because she is fourteen and doesn’t need a grown adult sleeping next to her every night. I told him how I felt and that he doesn’t need to do that anymore but all he says is “you can’t tell me what to do” “you are a control freak” and disregards how I feel. He then said “well I’ll go downstairs and sleep on the couch near her since you don’t want me in the bed”which makes no sense at all! He told me I am just trying to “control” where he sleeps and my daughter doesn’t have a problem with it so he isn’t stopping. He told me I am the only one who thinks something is wrong with it and that I am jealous! I could not believe it when he said that. What is wrong here?!!!! I wanted to punch him in the face when he said that. He always turns it around on me and makes me look like I crazy for thinking this way. I just want to scream! He claims he goes down there because she likes to talk until she falls asleep but at 3am in the morning you should be sleep not talking! She is fourteen for goodness sake how long will he be doing this? I just feel uncomfortable about the whole thing for some reason and at this point this whole situation makes me want to just leave this marriage. She isn’t five anymore. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Am I just overreacting? (link)
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Your husband is gaslighting you with his response so it is best to just address it head on. I would try to take this back a step and tell your husband you feel it is inappropriate that he wants to sleep in the same bed as your 14 yo daughter even though you know nothing is going on. I would make it clear that you can in fact tell him that he can not do this not one day more. It ends immediately. I would explain that your daughter being ok with it does not justify him doing this as you do not want your daughter to believe that sleeping in the same bed as a grown man is appropriate. I would then go to your daughter and explain that you know her step dad is not doing anything and you believe her but want her to know that adult men do not sleep in the same bed as teenagers. Then move your stuff to your daughters room and sleep there. If he tries to make you sound crazy tell him you that he needs to leave. You are not crazy, this is wrong.
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ive been talking to a guy but we havent texted in a week but theres something id like to tell him but i dont know if should text him again cause things are a bit awkward now.my friends are kinda...dont really agree(?)with me keeping contact with him, not because hes a bad person lol, hes just a penny pincher lol(we're both 18 btw, im a girl and hes a boy and we're both bisexual) (link)
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Ignore your friends, it is your feelings that matter, not theirs. You don't say why things have become awkward, but that may be why he hasn't reached out. If you have something you want to say then reach out. If he doesn't respond or responds badly at least then you will know and can move on.
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NEED SERIOUS HELP okay my bf and i have been doing long distance and it's been going pretty good, we do things like text and voice memos all the time but for some reason he just REFUSES to call me. He's done it once and it was great but after that he keeps saying he's too "nervous" or js changes the subject. At first i wanted to give him time to adjust but now it's seriously annoying, every time it's the same "sorry" and broken promise that he'll call me the next time…like I love him but i'm seriously getting tired of this sh**, what should I do??? (link)
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Sounds like he has a reason, you just don't know what it is. He may have no idea that this is bothering you to this extent. I'd flat out tell him it hurts you that he won't call and breaks his promise to do so. Be clear that you don't understand how speaking with you can make this nervous and ask that he help you understand. After that, it is up to you to decide if this is a dealbreaker or not.
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I have a guy friend (fake name – Jackson) and we have been flirty friends but never dated or done more than a kiss on the cheek. We have dated other people but always kept our relationship in the friend zone. We both don’t believe in FWB and consider that wrong. We do talk about sex but just like in a generic way friends do. I tease him for being a man whore even though he says he has only done it twice. He calls me the ice queen as a joke because I am a virgin and have turned a lot of boys down.
The deal is he was on his tablet in my room and we were done studying and I accused him of looking at porn as a joke. He denied it but would not show me what he was doing though so when he went to the bathroom I checked out his tablet. I know his password because he is so obvious and uses the same password for everything. I know that was wrong but I am already admitting that. It was no porn but just relationship chat rooms. I did not read the chats but I figured out his profile name. His profile was very poorly done btw with a not great pic and he could do so much better.
So here is the bad part. When he was gone I started going to the same chat site and made up a phony profile to see if he would sign on and my plan was to get him to say something crude and rude and bust him on it like a prank because he is always Mr. Polite. He eventually signed on and I followed him into a chat room. I swear it was called “crush on my best friend” with all these people talking about having the hots for their friend. It did not take long for him to start talking and saying he was with his friend all day and he could not stop thinking about her and he said other things that made it obvious to me he was talking about me. I just lurked and watched him pour out his heart about how bad he wants us to be a couple how he has to hide it whenever he gets aroused around me and how he has all these fantasies of asking me out and being intimate. It was not gross porno talk but like super sincere. He also admitted he was a virgin and lied about having sex to impress me. I decided against the prank and just signed out when he did.
So what do I do? I have this information about how he truly feels but I got it in a sneaky way. I also know his secret that he is still a virgin. I am not mad he lied. It is kind of sweet he wanted to impress me. He does that with other things trying to do sporty things even though he is not an athlete. Deep down I sometimes think of him as a potential BF and what a good BF he would make for someone, but I never considered us seriously as a couple. The things he said in the chat about how he feels about me totally melted my heart and now I see through so many things he has said and done to hide his feelings and act normal around me. Other people have said he was crushing on me but I did not believe it and he would always joke about it and say me asking meant I had a secret crush on him and we laughed it off. Now I feel like crap because he was trying to see how I felt and I shut him down.
He really is a nice boy with good hygiene and a cute face. He sort of reminds me of that boy Robert Irwin whose dad was that Australia crocodile guy who died. He has a great smile. He is wicked ticklish which could be sexy. He has slightly defined abs although he admitted he was flexing them to make them stand out and his arms flex kind of sexy when he puts his hands behind his head. He would be fun to look at shirtless but he does not do that very often. Most of the guys who do weights are brainless in my opinion so if you ask me his normal boy body is way sexy enough. He is very smart at a lot of things and is great at listening and encouraging me. He can be funny and sarcastic but not in a mean way. He needs fashion help and sexier glasses (or maybe contacts) but that is easy to fix.
I am open to giving us a chance as a couple, but how do I do it? Do I confess I spied on him? Do I call him out on being a virgin? Do I apologize for calling him a man whore? Do I just randomly encourage him so he makes a move finally? Any idea on how to drop hints or encourage him? Do I just ask him myself if he would like to try dating each other and pretend it was my idea? How can I give him more confidence so he knows he is a good catch just the way he is?
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First I would ask yourself if you would be interested in a relationship with this boy if you did not know his true feelings. Sounds like you have a great friendship and you don't want to do anything that would destroy that. Finding out how he feels is very flattering and being curious about taking this to the next level is natural. It sounds like his feelings for you are certain. You need to make sure exactly what you feel for him. From what you wrote it sounds like you think he would make a great boyfriend but not necessarily a great boyfriend for you. No reason to tell him you spied or know the truth about his virginity. If you determine you really do want more with this guy, tell him you love your friendship, don't want to risk that, but you are curious about maybe more and ask how he feels. I wouldn't move too fast, he might just back off as a reflex.
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