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OK...
My friend has been seeing her boyfriend for just over a month now. For two weeks they didn't even hold hands, they were so shy, but all of a sudden they kissed in the cinema and suddenly they are 'so in love' and on the same day as they kissed, they went to third base.
Last week, they had sex (in the WOODS!) and my friend is pretty sure she is pregnant. However, she is sayign she is 'bored' of her boyfriend and wants to 'move on'. I'm sorry but this is so stupid!! You don't sleep with someone you're 'bored' of and never really liked in the first place!!
She also wants an abortion.
First of all, I am angry at her for the whole 'oh I'm bored with you let's shag!' thing. I am also REALLY angry with her about the abortion because I am really against abortion in about 90% of cases, this one included. She wants to kill her own baby because she thinks she'll get 'bored' with it too, and because she made a mistake. She is 'making up' for that mistake with murder.
Now, I'm her friend and I am SUPPOSED to stand by her whatever, but this puts me in a HUGE dilemma because I do not agree with what she's done and what she is planning to do (split up with her boyfriend, have an abortion, not ever tell him she got pregnant). I'm really really angry at her right now and I can't talk to her, but I know she really needs my support at a time like this. How can I push my anger aside, how can I ignore my own stance on abortion and help her?
I need to stand by her...she needs all the love and support she can get, even though she doesn't deserve it. I was very tempted to slap her and run off when I found out but I realised that it's not my place to forgive or condone or accept or hate what she is doing, just to be there for her.
Please help...how can I get over my anger and resentment at what she is doing and be there for her? And don't just say 'talk to her' - if you have to, help me out on what to say!
Thanks for any help and sorry for the length. (link)
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Wow thats a lot of writing DOn't let her get in
abortion ask her why she is being a killer tell her many people ARE KILLING to have a baby give it to a place i totally agree with you i am against abortion too! sorry thats all i got hoped it worked ( please :(rate high)
Ok. Sry but here's a little more. Well, first of all, you shouldn't be ashamed of telling her to not get an abortion because, if that makes her feel weird about it cuz you said something, then that gud cuz then she might change her mind. And if that makes her not want to hang wiht you as much, that could be ok cuz you don't need a bad influence, but you could still help her as much as you could. ok, if she doesn't want to be pregnant, than she shouldn't of had sex in the first place. If she just dosn't want a baby, it's her fault that she had sex so she is should have to go through wiht it and just give up her child for adoption. but whatever the case, abortion is not the answer. salso, it's not like she has had a sonagram or someth9ing so she doesn't know if for sure that she is pregnant. also, some babies die beofre they r born on their own. look up some books for her to read about symptims for being pregnant, is here smelling sence WAY better, is she enjoying thing that she used to hate a TON?... there r a lot. Well, hope that helps, and if you have ne more questions, always here.
Sry that this answer was a long one like the question.
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Okay here is the scoop. I have a friend "Tory" who is pregnant. She didn't tell me her aunt did because her grandma kicked her out when she found out that "Tory" was pregnant. Her aunt wants me to talk to her but I can't bring it up until she tells me. But then again I don't think she wants to tell me because It is like a competition thing between us in her eyes, she always compares things. But I don't look at our friendship like that. But anyways when she tells me what can I say to make her feel like I will be there for her, which I will but I still don't know what to say Please HELP (link)
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this is Big and scarey If i was in your shoes i would ask god God is always the there to help
Hope that helped and pray God bless you
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