Hellllo ;) ask me anything I am sure I can come up with an answer Im a great friend a great listener I have been in many situations in my life where I feel like I can give some good advice about anything Im also a really blunt person so dont feel shy about anything...I look forward to giving you some great advice
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Age: 24
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Over the past six years or so, I've lived as a recluse. I have virtually no human contact other than what is required. In an average day, I probably say about 100 words aloud. I had a small group of 3-6 "friends" in elementary school, but I very rarely did anything outside of school with them.
Unlike most people with this problem, mine is entirely self-inflicted. I was never bullied, and I've had no "bad relationships" of any kind. I simply do not enjoy multi-person activities (including conversation). Since I viewed friendship as useless in the past, I didn't pursue it, and I am now completely incapable of participating in any kind of social interaction due to lack of experience.
Recently, over the past 2-3 years, this state has increasingly been bothering me for the following reasons:
* Having no social network of any kind puts me at an enormous disadvantage in gathering and spreading information.
* I have not a single person I can really trust with anything.
* Not having any human contact makes me depressed/lonely from time to time. Even though I don't consciously *want* human contact, I clearly need it in order to fix this.
So I eventually want to have like five friends (preferably online) who I can trust. It's no good just to have five contacts sitting in my instant messaging program; I need actual friends with whom I have real understanding.
How do I do this? Keep in mind that I have less social understanding than the average 3-year-old, and I am completely useless in a conversation. I also don't particularly enjoy conversation.
Don't tell me to "go out and talk to people". That's what all the websites say, and it does me exactly no good because I don't know the first thing about having a conversation. In all cases that I've tried to randomly participate in a conversation (_many_ times, online and off), I say virtually nothing because everything moves too fast for me and I can't think of anything to say.
I've posted this stuff to one other site, and despite talking to several of the people there, nothing good came of it. I will therefore be reluctant to contact anyone offering to "be my friend" in their response.
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Sounds to me that you are just an introvert. It doesnt sound like you have any social anxiety or anything like that it just sounds like you just like to keep to yourself and there is nothing wrong with that but if you are finding yourself getting lonesome than you should try online chat rooms theres no reason to be scared or shy just think of it as these people have no idea who I am you do not have to ever see them or talk to them again so no big deal...if you are really that shy then maybe just think of things to say about your hobbies and what not when in doubt ask questions because asking questions is a good way at allowing the other person to talk while you can think up some more conversation...just my opinion but from reading your post you dont sound dull at all you just need to break out of your shell ...just remember that people are just people who cares what they think believe in yourself...good luck !
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