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16f, I have this friend that is in a relationship with my other friend, but this so called relationship is not working so well. The guy tells me that he wants to break up with her but then he tells me he doesn't. I think he needs to make a choice a stick with it. If he wants to break up with her i think he should tell her instead of going back and forth with the disicion and keeping her in the dark and letting her think that things are working out and their not. But i told both of them that i am not in the situation any more and that i am offering no more advice so i can't really tell him how i feel about his little situation. I told them that i was out of it because it seemed like while i was trying to be a good friend to one i was being a bad friend to the other. And that went both ways. so, my delima, should i tell them what i think or should i butt out like i said i would. (link)
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You know, i jus answered a question similar to urs. I think you should speak your mind. If this guy is your friend, you shouldent keep anything from him. But on the other hand, im pretty sure you have known one of them longer than the other. As far as being a good friend to one and a bad to the other, that all depends solely on you. I also think that you should make them work things out between each other. Since you are a friend to both of them, they are gonna run to you when they need someone to talk to but more than likely one of them will start going to someone else now since he probley see how you truly feels. Thank you for your question and i hope what i said was helpful
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18 male, well see i have these two friends and i knew them both seperately at first. I introduced them to each other and they started to go out. this is all well and good but their relationship isn't all that good. They always stop talking to each other and end up putting me in the middle. It seems that i am always fixing there problems and always having to give them advice on how to live their lives and control their relationship, when i have no idea how to live mine. but seeing as im always fixing their problems neither of them have any time to listen to mine. im not saying they have to try and fix them but i could always use someone to talk to about mine. I support their realationship, i do, and even though i kinda got them together i think that it was the biggest mistake i ever made. i don't want to tell them this cause they both really like each other and i don't want them to break up because of me. but i can see that this relationship is not good for either of them.
Tell me what i'm supposed to do. Do i tell them or do i let them figure it out for themselves. (link)
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very interesting situation. To be perfectly honest, this a very delicate situation and needs to be hadled with alot of care. You say you are trying to be a good friend, well do so. Guide them along with anything they ask for your guidence for. But do not make your self too available to the point where it will start a large fued between the three of you. I think you should tell both of them to simply follow thier heart. It sounds like they need to just stop tryin to repair the realionship because, from what i can see, this relationship is definately beyond repair. As far as they go, i think they should break up. and as far as you go, keep the same relationship with them as you always had. In other words, after itz over, still be their close friend. Thank you for your question and hope what i said was helpful
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