Omg please help me you guys. This is gonna be kinda long ,but im just really confused!
Okay. Here goes :
I have friends that are twins(Kateri&Teresa). And i have another friend named Emily. Emily goes to highskool and she's a freshman.So am i. and Kateria & Teresa are in 8th grade but they should be a freshman but w/e thats not the point. Okay Me and Emily haven't seen each other in sucha long time but we hung out on Friday with out friends.
Emily and the Twins were really close when we were all in skool 2gether .Like really close,almost like best friends. Now when me and emily hung out on friday i was totally happy to see her since i haven't seen her because she goes to a different highskool than me. And we started talkin about the twins. And Emily was like "I don't really like the twins anymore." and i go oh my god why not you guys are like best friends. and emily was like "i kno but there just soo...clingy" and i was like in shock.
Me and the twins totally talk still and i luv em. And they started talkin about how emily was acting really weird and stuff..Like everytime they invited her to hang out or something emily would just be like "Well i don't really have time.."
Now i don't wanna go behind emily's back and just tell the twins. Becuase it was really good to see emily and i totally missed her. But i don't want to NOT tell the twins because im afraid that they'll tell Emily that i told them and i don't wanna hurt them either. Im just soo confused and omg its like irritating!! My question is should i tell the twins what emily said and go behind emily's back? Or should i just not tell the twins. Oh my god im super sorry that it is soo long but im soo confused! i don't wanna hurt anybody because i feel so bad!! and i don't wanna start drama!! =( please help!!
PLEASE!!
The answer is easy...don't tell the twins. No, you don't have to pick sides. Who said you have to?
So Emily doesn't like the twins, that doesn't mean you have to agree with her. Just let her be. Just because Emily told you that she didn't like them anymore does not mean you need to get into their business and tell the twins. Why should you? If Emily decides to tell the twins, she will, she won't need you to tell them for her. Anyway, since you said the twins said Emily was acting weird they probably figured out (or will soon) that Emily doesn't want to hang out with them. There's no need for you to tell them either way. I mean, you COULD tell the twins that Emily doesn't seem to want to hang out anymore and she's moved on so they get the hint, but you don't have to say Emily thought they were CLINGY, do you see what I mean?
If Emily or the twins ever said something BAD about the other, I think it's time you SHOULD tell because they deserve the right to know. But so far Emily just doesn't like the twins anymore. That happens a lot...friendships grow distant. It's normal. Sad, but normal. She hasn't said anything horrible or hurtful. So if things ever get ugly, yes it's time to tell, but for now nothing has gone bad, so let it be and time will tell.
Hope things work out.
Okay Im 15/f and a sophmore in highschool. I have two best friends kate and Leah.
Kate .... She always tells Leah and I about how everyone picks on her, but we never see it. She always says that someone said her outfit was ugly and stuff. But I think she does this for attention. She will never tell us who said it or anything.
BUT
She also tells us that like every guy she ever talks to, is in love with her. Like she could talk to someone for like 5 minutes and she would think that he was hardcore flirting. She always says every guy is in love with her, yet we never see it. The few guys we know like her for real, are the losers of the school.
Like at lunch, there are these really hot guys that stare at me everyday. Shes always like they were staring at US again. why do they stare at ME. They wont stop staring at ME. like its all about her. She has to steal the spotlight
She wanted to be on homecoming court really bad. She said that if she got on, she would feel like everyone liked her and thought she was pretty. She says that only pretty girls should be elected and none of them last year were pretty.
being a good friend, I got a bunch of people in my homeroom to nominate her even though I secretly dont want her to get it kind of to knock her back to earth, but Im not that mean so I still did. She ended up getting nominated. She hasnt been elected yet though. Well I have heard at least 15 people so far say "why did kate get nominated? that was random, no one likes her enough, etc."
Sooo....question
Whats her deal? I think shes so conceited, but she hides it and only I see it. Does she need the attention? Am I wrong for not wanting her to get everything she wants?
ps- its not really jealousy I know because I would want everything for Leah, because she doesnt act this way, its just kates secret craving for attention that drives me crazy
Is Kate honestly a good friend? Why are you two best friends?
Maybe you can think of why she's a good friend and why you two are best friends (if there are any reasons). By doing that, you'll be a little more comfortable with her. It's like when you don't like someone's faults, if you look at their good points they kind of make up for them.
You probably guessed it; you should talk to Kate. Tell her what you told us. And if you don't have the heart or memory to do it, you could always write her a letter and read it to her. Say it nicely though, whether you're annoyed by her or not. That way she won't (or at least hopefully) get so angry she won't be able to think clearly. Whenever that happens it usually just makes the matter worse.
If she listens and wants to work it out, that's good. You're halfway there. Now you just have to help her realize when she's being conceited. Honestly, shouldn't a good friend listen? If she doesn't listen and just denies it, now is the time to pick between three choices. You either continue giving in to her being conceited, or stop being best friends, or continue being best friends but ignore her or just say something absent mindedly like "uh huh" when she says something egotistical. You sound nice, so I doubt you'd stop being best friends with her, but just remember to be aggressive and follow through with whatever choice you pick!
Good luck!
So my friend graduated high school last year and she invited me to her graduation party. Her boyfriend was there- who is a year behind her so he's a senior this year- and I almost immmediatley liked him from the start of the party. I feel like a horrible person.
This situation only got worse. He's in my Drama class this year and I'm not sure if I flirted with him or not. We did this thing where we brought in what described who we are (I brought in a blank journal) and when I was done I passed by him, and smiled: but no, it gets worse: *he smiled back.*
I feel horrible and I just don't know what to do. Help!
This really depends on what you mean by "like". Do you have romantic feelings about your friend's boyfriend, or do you just think he's a great guy and you like being friends?
Liking him as a friend is nothing bad. It's a good thing. You're supporting your friend in her choice of having him as a boyfriend, and you're making a new friend. Smiling at the guy and having him smile back at you is no big deal. Lots of people smile, it doesn't mean they're in love with everyone. Don't feel so guilty.
If you like him romantically or if you think you might be beginning to, now is the time to stop and think. He is just one guy. And he belongs to your friend. Why can't you score another guy? That way you'll find a guy JUST for you, and you won't lose your friendship with anyone. Just think about it. If you had a boyfriend, you wouldn't want some other girl to steal him away would you? That would be painful, not to mention backstabbing if it is your own friend. There are a lot of guys out there. Just because you find one nice guy doesn't mean he has to be your soulmate. There are plenty more.
What is the real difference between a friend and a "best friend"?
BFF stands for Best Fudging (so called) Friend!
Lol. Sorry. I'm having issues of my own with my own friends right now, so yeah.
Well, a best friend is "more" than a friend. Out of all of your friends, you consider this one the "best" and you are closer to them. They should have the qualities you want in a best friend, like honesty, trust, etc.
I have a friend who says I am her "best friend". Well, lately she hasn't been inviting me places. Like, she is always with other people. I have caught on that everytime she invites me out her other friends are busy. Do you think I am her second choice or maybe I am just overreacting? I have talked to her about it but she makes excuses.
You MAY be overreacting. Well, why didn't YOU call her and ask her if she wanted to hang out? You said she's been hanging out with HER OTHER friends. That's understandable. Once people get new friends they like to hang out with them since they're "new" and something "different".
Maybe her other friends have been calling her and actually asking her to go out. Maybe if you actually planned things with her you'd actually be going out too.
Maybe you DO try to plan things with your bestfriend, so forgive me if this answer isn't accurate, but I'm just giving you advice from what little information you gave me.
The best thing to do is to talk to her. Tell her you don't care if the truth hurts you, but you just want to know the truth. If she makes an effort to include you in her hang outs more you'll know she's trying. If she doesn't really do anything you'll know she's not trying too hard. If that's the case just dump her. You don't need friends that treat you horribly.
i wasz wondering if theres any sites online to find a e-pal or whatever u would call it, like a pen pal only online. If anyone knows of any please let me know thanks.
http://www.e-palworld.co.uk
You could try that one. It got me some new e-pals fairly quickly.
I did a google search (If you want more try searching for it yourself next time ;D). Here are some more :)
http://www.epals.com/register
http://penpalpost.com
http://epals.phk.at
http://www.penpalworld.com
http://www.penpalgarden.com
i have this friend tht i have known for years and she always seems to beat me at everything music grades, instrumentsand she is better at everything than me such as sports (netball) snd she thinks tht ts a competition. should i dump her as a friend or tell her how i feel?
You already asked me this. Next time, don't bother dropping me an inbox if you're going to ask everyone else as well.
http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=HyperactiveMiss&mode=qview&q=357200
me and my mate both like to do the same things like music, netball (sports) but whenever i do these things with her she always beats me at them and i think tht she thinks tht its a competition and it gets on my nerves but i dont no weva to dump her as a friend cuz it upsets me weneva i find out she has beaten me at sumthing i feel like cryin (sumtimes i do) so should i dump her as a friend?
First off, I must state the obvious. Look dear, you CAN'T dump a friend JUST because she beats you at "everything".
You guys have a lot in common as you said. You like to do the same things. And you called her your friend, or your mate. By the sounds of that I think you guys have a lot to go for. The only thing you need to do now is to work out your little problem with her.
If you look at the second sentence I have written up there, you will see I put "everything" in quotation marks. Why? Because how do you know she beats you at EVERYTHING? Have you tried new things she might not be good at? You could also practice more so you could be even better than her in something.
You said you THINK she thinks everything is a competition. You didn't say you KNEW. This is the major problem here of the situation. You need to talk to her.
Since she beats you at some things, you know what you could do? You could ask her to teach you how to be better. Having someone better than you is not a bad thing. They teach you how to make yourself better. They can help you. This is where that whole "talking" thing comes in again. You have to ask and TALK to her or nothing will ever change.
As for the competition thing...that's not a bad thing either. Competition makes you work harder. It keeps you on your toes. If you had no competition I doubt you would work as hard as when you had competition. Even rivals in a field like sports can be friends. Even if you're playing against each other doesn't mean you have to hate the person on the other team.
I understand you want to cry when she beats you. It feels bad to lose to someone else at something you love doing. The thing is, there will always be someone better than us. Kind of sad to realize, but there's a good side to it as well. That means there's always someone WORSE than you as well! So you see? Everyone has their own level. Although you're not the best, you can always be better than someone else and that proves you are at least trying and your hard work paid off.
Don't dump a friend for a stupid reason. Work it out first and if your friend refuses to work it out with you, THEN you can dump that friend. And even if you dump that friend, never forget that they help you to improve by making you work harder.
my b/f called while me and my fam were away this weekend. he left a message it said stuff like, "i miss u so much, i lve u babe, we have to get together and do it again some time." i was so embarressed than i listen to it again it didn't sound like him. I never "did" anything with him. he kissed me like once but that was it. i know i should call but i don't want to cause i'm waaaaaaaaaaaaay to shy. somebody please!. i'm soooooo upset cause it might have been a prank call, my parents are freaking out, i'm freaking out and i've goptten myself soooo upset i've throwen up. I have no way to trase the call cause my grandma called after. I'M ONLY 13! my parents won't even LET me date yet!please some one.
I absolutely do not understand. Why? Because the title of your question is:
"i hate having a b/f"
If you HATE having a boyfriend then dump him already! You answered your own question. And after you dump him tell your parents.
All your boyfriend said you have to get together and do it again sometime. That doesn't have to mean anything! It could just mean you guys went out and he thought it was nice so he wants to do that again. He sounds like a nice boyfriend, but obviously you aren't giving him any slack. So break up with him.
I am 13 and I'm a female. A few of my guy friends seem to act real nice around me, but when they're around each other, they say bad things about me. I'd like to know if I can trust them.
Obviously you've answered your own question. You probably shouldn't trust them. When people act one way and act another in front of other people it's not very trustworthy or genuine.
I just got back from a two 1/2 week vacation to california. Me and my best friend hung out so much before I left. When I got home I called her immeaditly and she was like Hi. I told her i wus home and i missed her and she said Uh-Huh. *not in a sarcastic way* Shes busy hangin out with all of her other friends right now, i dont mind that she hangs out with them, but Ive been home for a week and she never calls me or anything and she didnt act like she cared I came home! Whats going on?
Well there are two perspectives:
1) Well, why didn't YOU call her and ask her if she wanted to hang out? You said she's been hanging out with HER OTHER friends. That's understandable. Maybe her other friends have been calling her and actually asking her to go out. Maybe if you actually planned things with her you'd actually be going out too.
1) Sounds like she doesn't really care whether you've been back or not.
The best thing to do is to talk to her. Tell her you don't care if the truth hurts you, but you just want to know the truth. If she makes an effort to include you in her parties and hang outs more you'll know she's trying. If she doesn't really do anything you'll know she's not trying too hard. If that's the case just dump her. You don't need friends that treat you horribly.
Ok well the guy I kinda like I just found out has a girlfriend aww i know im sad... I cant get him out of mind, i have a myspace and hes one of my friends on it cause we go to school together and stuff i mean i didnt just meat him or anything and I use to like always look at his sight and leave him friendly comments and stuff but now the picture thats his main is of him and his girfriend kissing... I respect him and respect the fact that he has a girlfriend and all that cause were good friends and Im happy for him i just want to try to think of him as a really good friend and not get sad when i see thier picture... any advide please help...
signed I respect the man
That's very sweet and mature of you. Unlike other girls, they'd try and break them up and get revenge or something. You'll find someone else I'm sure!
I just answered a question (Although the girl was so ungrateful) similar to yours and maybe it'll help you. Here's the link:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=HyperactiveMiss&mode=qview&q=351075
I'm not too confident with walking up to people and starting conversation...
What would be some good opening points/questions for talking to people? Of around my own age (16/17) (college people) or older? (work collegues)
Any suggestions?
You could see if you know anything about them. By that I don't mean be a stalker, lol. Just see if they're holding a book, or if they're wearing this or that, you know that kind of stuff. That'll help make you strike up a conversation. Or you could ask how long they've been working/schooling there. If you're eating lunch or at the library ask if you can sit with them. Just remember most people are just like you and want to meet new people, but they're just too scared to go for it. Hopefully that'll get the confidence going and hopefully you'll make some new friends ;)
I'm being blammed from my friend that i have been hacking onto her account on another site!well, i'm not!how do i convince her i would never do that to her?
First of all it's spelt as "blamed". Just letting you know.
There's probably no way to convince her if you've tried talking to her already. Maybe you can get her to contact the site administrater and ask him/her if they can check who hacked into her account and prove that it's not you. Good luck!
Oh, believe me. I'm totally with you on the whole grammar and typing right deal. I hate when people don't know when to use "you're" and “your” – bugs the hell out of me. Also, when people use slags such as: Yer, ur, unno, lolz, r, u, etc – also bugs the crap out of me. Aww, and thank you so much. You're a sweetie as well :) If you're ever bored, you can always drop something in my inbox and we can chat it up, (since I’m always on this site.) Keep it real! ♥ Krissy
Deeefinitely. It doesn't make people seem any cooler and it doesn't take much effort to type a few letters extra. Oh and I'll definitely send you something sometime...I'm always on this site too. Haha.
Oh yeah, I'm glad that girl (The one that was harrassing me) finally had her IP banned from this site. I don't think she saw it coming. Oh sweet revenge.
my friend is anorexic and i need to persuade her to tell and adult, before i do. what should i say?
thx
I suggest you do some research on anorexia. I think you'll find lots of horrible truths about it. Be sure to tell everything you learned to your friend. If you can make her at least realize that anorexia is bad and she needs help, the rest will be a breeze.
If she still can't realize the truth, tell her you're going to tell an adult no matter what she says only because you love and care about her. So what I'm saying is, if she doesn't tell an adult, you should tell one. Don't be afraid if your friend will be angry at you. What's better? Having a friend hate you and be safe? Or having a friend love you and be at risk? Since she is your friend, I'm sure she won't "hate" you, but I only said that to make a point. Her safety and health is important.
Good luck with your friend.
I found out that someone that my brother knows smokes ciggarettes and i think im just going to stay out of it but i want a second opinion!
Well, what else can you do except "stay out of it"? First of all, it might have helped if you told us the smoker's age. It'd be very different if he was 12 or 21. That's why you should always be specific when you're asking a question.
If he's over the legal age, you should just let it be. Lots of people smoke, even if we don't want them to. You could try and bring him to his senses about why smoking is bad, but don't be bummed if he doesn't listen. It sucks, I know, but there's not much else we can do if they don't want to listen.
If it's UNDER the legal age, by all means, DO something about it! Take action! Not only is it killing them, but it's going to get him/her into lots of trouble. Starting young never leads up to anything good in the end. You could knock some sense into the smoker, but if that fails, tell an adult or someone that can help. You may think you're just one person, but one person can make a whole difference.
ok well theres this new girl named kristen that came to our school like 4 months ago and she acts all popular and shes really mean.anyways one day our teacher was picking partners for a project and she picked my best friend diana and kristen:(then they started playing with each other and doing everything together.kristen is just taking diana away from me:(so what should i do?i want my best friend diana back!
I have been there before. I'm sure a lot of people have.
The only thing you can do to keep from losing your friend is to talk to her. Tell Diana what you told us. It probably won't fix the problem 100%, but at least she'll know how you feel and if she's a good friend, she'll start trying to spend more time with you and fix the problem. Sit down with her somewhere and have a long talk. Perhaps even with Diana's new friend, Kristen, so that you can let everyone know how you feel. Don't feel bad about feeling jealous and replaced because we have all experienced that when a bestfriend starts spending more time with someone else.
You could also try becoming better friends with Kristen. Maybe you'll even like her more than you thought you did. That would be a good thing because the three of you will hang out and you'll have TWO bestfriends. There's nothing wrong with having more than one bestfriend.
And if all else fails, I'll tell you the truth. Not all friendships work out. Sometimes, even the sturdiest and longest friendships die out.
Think of it this way: "In everyone's life there are certain people who have helped to form his character and given direction to his life; they are like big stones in a river that force the water to alter its course."
And even if those people are not with you forever, they still helped form who you are. Cherish your memories...don't forget them, but don't be sad when your newer memories don't have your bestfriend in them. You will make new friends. Just be glad you were friends with your bestfriend and you made some good memories together.
Even if you were still friends with your bestfriend, that doesn't mean it will last forever. It might have to end eventually anyway. Different colleges, etc.
Try fix your friendship, but if it doesn't work out, just accept it, look at the positives, and live life.
Ok,i have this friend Tina. I know tina id going to become friends with my other friend. I do not want them to be friends but i no they are going to become really close. Tina always puts me in the shadow and she gets all the attension. How can i except that Tina and my friend are going to be come close..and not care? Not feel sad and left out inside? Not feel missing and alone? How can i just be happy with everyone? please help
I have been there before. I have lost my old time friends from like 2nd grade and 4th grade when I entered middle school...and truely I never did gain them back. It's not like we have a grudge against each other or anything, it's just that we have all moved on and some of my friends have literally moved away.
The only thing you can do to keep from losing your friends is to talk to them. Tell them what you told us. It probably won't fix the problem 100%, but at least they'll know how you feel and if they're good friends, they'll start trying to spend more time with you and fix the problem. Sit down with them somewhere and have a long talk. Don't feel bad about feeling jealous and replaced because we have all experienced that when a friend starts spending more time with someone else.
You could also try becoming better friends with BOTH of them. That would be a good thing because the three of you will hang out and you'll have TWO bestfriends. There's nothing wrong with having more than one bestfriend.
And if all else fails, I'll tell you the truth. Not all friendships work out. Sometimes, even the sturdiest and longest friendships die out.
Think of it this way: "In everyone's life there are certain people who have helped to form his character and given direction to his life; they are like big stones in a river that force the water to alter its course."
And even if those people are not with you forever, they still helped form who you are. Cherish your memories...don't forget them, but don't be sad when your newer memories don't have your bestfriend in them. You will make new friends. Just be glad you were friends with your bestfriend and you made some good memories together.
Even if you were still friends with your friends, that doesn't mean it will last forever. It might have to end eventually anyway. Different colleges, etc.
Try fix your friendship, but if it doesn't work out, just accept it, look at the positives, and live life.
ok i'm really sorry this is long, but please take the time to read it, because it seems no one can help me: all i want is that on friend. that one friend that will stick with you though your whole life, and that u can grow old with. you know? that friend if your crying she will come over to your house and sit with you for hours, or one that you can call at 2 in the morning. and that friend that you never have awkard silent moments with cause you always speak your mind with her, and even if you are silent, its comfortable silence.you see, it seems all my friends arent really THAT friend.like when i feel like talking about serious things, they do not listen. they're just to have a few jokes with and thats it. in MY opinion, i think there is more to a friend than that. my mom says its hard to find that kind of friend but someday you will. i dont believe her. will I EVER get that friend!!???
Your mom is absolutely right. Although it's easy to find friends, it's definitely hard to find good friends like that. Don't be discouraged.
Not all friendships work out. Sometimes, even the sturdiest and longest friendships die out. Think of it this way: "In everyone's life there are certain people who have helped to form his character and given direction to his life; they are like big stones in a river that force the water to alter its course."
And even if those people are not with you forever, they still helped form who you are. Cherish your memories...don't forget them, but don't be sad when your newer memories don't have your bestfriend in them. You will make new friends. Just be glad you had some friends and you made some good memories together.
Even if you found a really good friend right now that doesn't mean it will last forever anyway. It might have to end eventually anyway. Different colleges, etc. When you are older and have a stable life, I'm am very positive you will find stable friends. When you're young things are a little shakey. so friendships can be shakey as well. Like I said, just don't be discouraged about it.
Not all friendships are that great. Not all friendshps last forever. If it doesn't work out, just accept it, look at the positives, and live life.
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