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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
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Hey there, OP. I'm so sorry you're in this situation...you seem to be the only 'adult' in the family, so to speak. I would try and get on Obama care if you can. If you are able to do that, I would strongly encourage your mother to see a psychiatrist. It really is too bad that you don't have family to go to. However, if you have their emails, I would try and contact them to explain that your mother is very ill and that you need help encouraging her to seek the help she needs. I would try and ask your dad for help and support. If he cares enough, then hopefully he'll man up and support.
Unfortunately, if your mother is completely unwilling, then there is nothing you can do. If she is going to get help, she is going to want to be ok again. It's up to her.
Your sister seems to be no help whatsoever In fact, she seems to be an enabler which is very unhealthy. She can probably use some therapy too.
Now, if there is absolutely no one you can reach out to, I would see if anyone is looking for a roommate. I really don't think quitting your job and living on the streets is going to help. :p You would be susceptible to disease and hunger. I think you really should get out of your house; it is not a healthy environment for you. Even if your efforts of getting your mom help are successful, I would be on the look out for someone who is looking for a roommate. You can check Craigslist. :) You need to get out of that environment though.
Being independent can be scary, but you have your whole life ahead of you to learn and grow. You can't be taking care of your mom for the rest of your life. You can support and love her, but you can't be her mom. And you certainly can't make your sister grow up. She's gotta get her lady balls and do that herself. And being on the streets isn't going to change anything. It will probably make things worse.
You seem to be a bright and mature person. You need to be in a healthy environment with people who are support and love you.
Best of luck, sweet cheeks xx
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