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My name is Michelle, my nickname is Emi, call me which ever name if you want. I'm 14 years old, a freshman in High school. I'm awesome with advice and helping people out. I play volleyball, softball and I do cheerleading. You're problems come before mine so ask away with anything that you need, i'm always here!
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Im always grounded n it makes me soo mad! Tehy ground me for stupid reason and i dont no what to do! Every time i try to talk to them they dont listen and notthing changed! What should i do? Go for some real help??
You should really listen to them and hear where they're coming from. Don't argue with them but accept what they have to say, most of the time it's for a good reason. Sometimes. You should work to earn their respect, do extra things around the house and when they tell you to do them a favor.. Do it...
Emmy
I'm loosing it! 28yrs, recently married 3 months ago. Let's just say it hasn't been a bed of roses.
1st there's my stepson. 8yrs. Has grown up mostly alone with just his Dad. Spoilt brat! So I'm working day by day to be the stepmother, but in his eyes it's just EVIL STEPMOTHER. He is very rude, spiteful, headstrong, and most of the time does what he pleases if I don't put my foot down.
Now ontop of that I'm dealing with my husband (29yrs) who recently discovered he suffers from Panic/stress/anxiety attacks and hypertension. He moans evryday about how ill he feels, and I have to remain quiet & supportive. When I try to speak to him about anything, from his son, to his "condition" he tells me I am making it worse! He uses his stressful job and the stress of life as an excuse. I love him dearly & I am trying very hard to cope with his son, and him. I have suggested we take his son to a Therapist & that he see another Dr, for a 2nd opinion on his health, or even a Therapist to help him cope with every day stresses. He freaked out! Today, I lost it, and told him to get over himself, and that he should realise that he's not the only one dealing with stress. It's not the first time I've lost my cool either. We've been fighting alot recently because of everything going on. I really don't know what else to do. He and my stepson are driving me to the edge. I'm trying so hard to be strong, cause my husband's not well. But having to deal with this moaning evry day and my stepson are now taking it's toll. To top it off, my husband wants us to start trying for a baby, I desperatly want to too, but then I;m thinking "An ill husband, a terror of a stepson and a newborn baby? NO WAY!"
As much as I love him, and I want to be a good stepmother to his son, I feel as if I just want to run away because I can't handle all of this anymore.
life has it's ups and downs, right now its at the down side, everythings pouring down at you at once and you just need sympathy and someone who will listen to you and relax you from your pain. i am soon to have a step mother, she's a sweet person. but i got kind of upset because i wasn't spending enough time with my father, and i missed him a lot. i told her that once in awhile if it was okay if he could just take me home, because there was things i needed to talk to MY father about. Anyways, my point is that maybe theres something inside of him that's hurting or he misses his real mother, birth mother. i understand that your having a hard time with family issues at home, and then a kid around the house can be stressful, but maybe sometime when your husband isn't around, talk to him about how he feels about you and cope with him about it, talk to him about somethings that are going on in your life. If i had the chance to get closer with my step mom, i would. i love her, but we both...we can't stand eachother. because of her, i haven't seen my father in months..and he forgot my last birthday- talk to him about it, because if he feels threatened by you, which may be the case- you need to talk to him and be there for him. Maybe he misses that sympathetic one, the person that tucks him into bed or gives him a kiss goodnight, you know? the things mom would do. I konw you will never be his full mom, but i think he needs to know that you're there. start going to a therapist and talking about your issues, or even join a yoga class or something, no wait.. Go to a massage therapist, something relaxing and something for you. If you need me again, ask me. i'm here.
Hope I helped.
Emi*