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Im 18, going to college in a month. My brother is already away at college, my parents have been married for 25 years. i know my dad is cheating. I have told my brother, but i havent told my mom because there is a very strong sense in me that my dad will kill himself or hurt himself if someone were to find out.. which happened to my best friends dad. It doesnt matter what other people say, in my head im 150% that it'd happen. because i know hes cheating and have to watch him lie to me and my mom every day, i have no trust from him. Our relationship was great before, we were with together every day. now, were never together unless its a family function, and we dont even talk. i know hes lying to me, and everytime he does i wanna snap on him and just scream out all my anger and hurt but i cant. It kills my heart deeply that im going away to college with no relationship with my dad.. i look foward to events like getting married, and him walking me down the isle and all that... and i dont see it, because were not even close at all. My mom doesnt know or sense anything cause she works nights, and me and my dad are never home during the day. ive gone to counseling.. and still there never found a solution so i stopped going.


I really need help. My trust for everyone in my life is gone, and i dont wanna lose something so important, my family or my relationship with my dad. Its the worst feeling in the world..

i'm so sorry. maybe you can try talking to your brother more? This situation is a difficult one.
I would say talk to your dad privately and tell him you stil love him and don't want him to do anything ..but talk with him.
sit him down quietly, alone and ask if he has ever done anything.
make sure he knows you still love him and care about him.
the only reason why he would hurt himself is because he thinks nobody loves him or cares about him. he'll be embarrassed...but make sure you talk to him in a mature matter.
I hope everything works out and i'm so sorry

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