Ok, I'm Nadia. I enjoy showing cattle and graphic design art. I work at McDonalds but am somewhat intellectual. I am studying Social Work at university and it's really not as great as you may think. I used to suffer with depression and have been in and out of it since I was 14. I'm a believer in Jesus Christ and I follow Him the best I can but I am open to all religions and will not force mine upon you. :)
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I think I may have depression. I don't know if it is temporary or not. I have shown several classic symptoms of depression for nearly three months now, and I am so afraid to ask for help. I feel like there shouldn't be anything wrong with me, and I can't talk to my family about it, because I don't want it to become a huge ordeal. My mom has three sisters - the way they gossip, my problems would be all over the family before the words even left my mouth. I really don't want to draw any attention to myself because I am ashamed that I can't shake this feeling. Are there tips for dealing with possible depression without seeking help? Should I just treat the symptoms as they appear? (link)
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I tried doing it by myself, trust me, it doesnt work. I just got worse and got into hurting myself and suicide and what not.
so, if you don't want to ask someone for help try a helpline. I haven't any idea where you live, so I can't really tell you what ones are good but they have really helpful people on the other end.
Another idea is see your school counsellor. I really didnt want to do that once, but my friend sent me to her, and she honestly cared. That was quite scary, because for a year i felt like no one cared. So as hard as they maybe to talk to, they are really good people!
A few websites you can have a look at are:
http://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/
http://www.beyondblue.org.au/
http://www.ybblue.com.au/
http://www.depressionet.com.au/
http://www.moodgym.anu.edu.au/
http://www.lifeline.org.au/
Well if you ever wanna talk you can give me a shout. I delt with depression for 2 years by myself, before getting help, so I know how you're feeling.
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WARNING LONG I like black.I weir black nail polish and alot of black eyeliner.In a few days im dieing my bangs that hang in my eyes black to.Now i have had my hair pink,purple,green,blue,red and other colors at different times so people already think im weird also im emo and i get made fun of because i used to cut and i dont think people know but they might it was a big thing with screming and trowing things around (mostly by me) and so people no somthing happened and because im emo that what they think it is true but still.i think im ugly and i hate myself i get jelous easly realy easly also i think i might be bi.whats so bad about being emo being different.i no people are gonna hate me and think im weird but im not sure what my problem is anymore it was sposed to be about my hair but now i think i may have bigger problems.i dont eat until i start shaking alot. im a 13 female who feels alone and dosent wanna cut agian and whos going into 7th (link)
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I went through the same kinda thing. I started wearing black and all that as a way of expressing myself. I'm now over the whole suicide/cutting thing but i still dress the same way, i guess it's what i'm used to. If you don't feel comfortable in what you wear then wear what u DO feel comfortable in.
At such a young age i'm guessing you're just finding you, 13 was a hard time in my life too, but trust me, it will pass.
keep eating too! if you wanna be able to help yourself you're gonna have to have the strength to do so, and food is where we draw our strength from.
If you're dead serious about fighting the bad stuff you will make the right descisions, trust me. For about a year all i wanted was to get better but i was just SO scared, every time i got happy i'd slide down and get all depressed again. but one day i made the descision, that no matter how scary something was i had to fight my fears. so i did, one day i woke up and said to myself i'm not going to be depressed, of course, it didnt work that easily but over an amount of time with help from some one really special i got into a positive attitude. and that attitude will help you feel better in yourself.
so when you're serious, u WILL seriously try really hard. the first step is the scary one, and it aint easy but it's SO worth it!
good luck to ya, if you ever need to talk i'm here!
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i think that i might have a little bit of anxiety. i'm almost certain that if i just went to go see a phsycologist, he or she could just tell me whether or not i do and/or if i can take something for it. the problem is that my mom won't take me. she says that it's normal to experience anxiety when you're PMSing. But, i'm not always PMSing. i think i even know why i have anxiety. iv'e tried explaining it to her, but i'm sure if she heard it from the phsycologist, she might stop doing what is making me feel like this. how can i convince her? cuz she needs to hear it from someone else i think
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yeah people would notice if you had anxiety. um, there are different types of it though...if you want your mum to listen try talking to someone like a school counesllor etc. you didnt state your age or where you're from but depending on that you can take yourself. when i was suffering deep depression and didnt want my folks to find out i nearly took myself to my gp coz i was gonna kill myself...i didnt end up needing to do that though, so i can't really tell u what would happen if you did.
but anyways, try talking to a trusted adult about it, and they could take you or help convince your mum etc.
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For sometime Ive been getting mad over tiny things. Like, someone will say something a little insesnitive without thinking and I get upset for hours. Even when they apologise I can't just, like, let it go. Then I get angry over the slightest thing.
How can I control my temper and stop myself from getting blue over everything? Its started to cause BIG problems with my friends and family. (link)
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i agree with who ever said something about trying to be polite about saying something etc. i went through a stage like this and the only problem with trying your best to hold it in is that u can end up feeling even worse because you're holding that anger in.
so my advice is, whilst being polite etc make sure you have a way to relive your self from the anger. it's up to you how you do it. give me a shout though if you would like some ideas, i tried a lot of things until i found one that really really worked for me.
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Hello, my name is Racquel and i am 14 years old. Ever since i was little i was always bugged by girls in every single grade of school. And now, since im in grade 9 now, it has been really affecting my emotions.. can anyone help me find a way to help me with this or give any advice as to dealing with this. I dont want to cry anymore, and get angry all the time.
Thanks,
Racquel (link)
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I know what you mean....I used to get payed out by most of my year, yr8s and most of the year 9s, I didn't even know most of them. I had just started high school and word got around quickly that i was a "square", "nerd", what ever you want to call it. I was only labeled this because I did my work and handed in assignments on time. ANYways, find someone you can trust to talk to about it. As crazy as it sounds the school counsellor is actually pretty good, i was forced to go to ours once when i attempted to kill myself...she was heaps nice n stuff. so yeah, otherwise a trusted friend, no need to expand on the reasons there.
if u need to talk give me a shout! :)
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kay well heres the problem
i feel like im living a lie! Im not tyring to brag or anything but my social life at school is good! i have the greatest friend and i laugh all the time and stuff.. im pretty well knownd specially for being happy and laughing all the time!!
but the lie is that im not.. I HATE myself! i go home a cry myself to sleep almost everynight! its because of what my brother did to me! i have flashbacks and he still bothers me and when he touches me and when i think about it i break down and cry!
i mean i used to cut myself! I DONT ANYMORE! and the thing is like it gets soo bad at home that i wanna comit suiced BUT I DONT WANT TO DIE! i just want the pain of what im going threw at home to stop!
it makes my stomach feel all weird and makes me sick to my stomach and its feels hard to breath!
am i depressed?? should i see like a therpist??
because like suiced I DONT BELIEVE IN but its on my mind alll the time!
and there is no way at school people could no about this! it would be like the BIGGEST SHOCKER are school well the people who know me has seen
what do i doo!!
please i need some advice!! (link)
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I've been there and back many times with stuff like this. I've attempted suicide, hurt myself, you name it i've probably done it!
But you've got to stand strong. Talking to some one will definatley help. i dont believe in therapists that much. i've had bad experience with them, so i prefer to just turn to someone who understands and will listen, and wont give me medication, because i dont believe in that eitehr.
If you dont feel confident relying on any of your friends, i'll be happy to be someone to listen to you. i've helped out a fair few people.
but my advice is to find someone who u WANT to talk to, dont force yourself to open up to anyone you dont want to. this will only make you feel worse.
if you ever feel like crying though, dont try to stop yourself, let yourself do it. then afterwards try to cheer yourself up with a funny movie or just something u enjoy doing. write yourself a happy list, because thats what i have!
hope it helped, give me a shout if you wanna talk or anything.
Nadia.
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im so unhappy. i dont really know why, people just bring me down with stupidity and selfishness. i guess mostly just teenage problems, im just afraid this unhappiness is going to get to far. ive picked up smoking, and drinking, and popping pills, just to feel better. (no cutting or anything i think thats rediculous) but i guess my question is, what do i do to make myself happier. what can i say to myself or do for myself without having to go to a doctor because im another one of the millions of kids with "depression"? 17/f thanks ahead of time (link)
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If you've taken up drinking etc because of this unhappiness then i think it already HAS gotten too far.
you really just need to find someone to talk to and have a regular session with them. talk through ways that you can work through a problem you are having.try and find a friend who wont judge you for your views, these people are hard to find but are great to talk to!
when i feel myself starting to get a bit down i always say to myself no, i will not let myself get so depressed, i've gotta be happy. sometimes it can become quite emotionally tiring but in the end it works. i just smile at myself in the mirror and go and watch my favourite movie. just do stuff that will cheer you up pretty much!
i have a few people who talk to me on a regular basis. even though i'm young i've had training and have depression so yeah...just give me a yell if theres anything i can do, k?
Nadia.
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well... my life is great and i know that but like sometimes i just cant help feeling really sad...like i want to cry all the time and i over-analyze everything around me making everything scarry and bad...and like i started cutting a while ago and recently its gotten worse...like its gotten deep to the point where ill pass out and wake up w/tons of blood all over..and like sometimes ill just take some pills to knock myself out and get away from it all..and like i cant sleep.. i havent in about a week...and i wont eat...i refuse to...i have food and it will make me even more fat than i am right now... but like sometimes ill just sit in my room and ill be real calm and just crying for hours...then suddenly ill like flip and like i will start screaming and throwing things and like i will hate every 1 and everything around me...ill just like loose coltrol and start fighting with myself and slicing open my arm while doing so and like its just gotten so far and so bad that everyone thinks im crazy...even though i make sure not to loose it in front of other ppl...but like my arms are covered in scars...like after one of my episodes the other day i finaly calmed down but couting them and i couted 367 on my arms and 68 on my ankles...like where i live its cool all the time so i can wear hoodies and stuff but its still like omg...i wanna stop so bad but its turned into an obsession and like ill jsut find myself doing it...im scarred that one of these days im gonna go too far and die...even though many many times i have thought about suiside...well there really isnt much n e one can do for me but if you do have any non-cocky non-smart ass answers its much appriciated!
p s ill rate high for really good answers!! thx
♥ rrenef ♥ (link)
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yep yep, i been there too.
well, i am no doctor or anything but i have had enough training and experience to say that it sounds like bipolar disorder. simple enough to treat with some medication.
of course, like me most people arent willing to take medication! which a lot of the time i see as a good thing.
now, i'm not going to tell you what you should do, i am merely going to give you ideas and my thoughts because i hate it when people tell me what to do!
when you feel like hurting yourself there are HEAPS of other things you can do! it may not seem like it at the time, but there are. one thing i've found that works is staying around someone for as long as possible. once i asked someone over because i was home alone and was tempted! if you can't stay around anyone go to bed, or have a shower (without sharp objects!). i have a list of 151 things to do if you feel tempted so give me a yell if you want me to send you that.
i think it's only when you realise that life is a gift that you dont want to die. i learnt from a friend who attempted suicide over 8 times and is still alive today, also from my personal experiences.
i always say imagine those people who are in hospital with cancer or something like that. they are fighting for their lives, and you're willing to give it away...so if you're scared that you're going to go too deep one day, well then dont do it in the first place and you're guaranteed not to!
yes yes, easier said than done, but i make an aim. like i say ok, i'm not going to hurt myself for 2 weeks, and i feel so good with myself that after that i dont feel i need to.
well anyways, i wrote a fair bit so i had better stop!!
hope it helped, and just give me a yell if you need anything, k?
Nadia.
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I just met this girl in pottery and she is really cool.( we are both Freshman) We were just talking and she said she used to cut herself and do drugs but not anymore.She said in the summer of 2009 (when we graduate) her and her friends from a different school are going to burn down there old school and then stand across from each other and shoot themselves because they all want to die at the same time.I dont know if I should tell anybody.She sounds really serious about it and I dont kno what I should do.I dont think I can tell a consouler because they will confront her and she will know it was me because i was the only person she told.Ill rate high (link)
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mmm, any suicide threat should definatley be taken seriously. even if people are just joking, and i even know it, i always say, "you ARE joking right?".
you should definately tell someone. you can talk to a counsellor without mentioning any names and just ask them for advice. or ask a counsellor who doesnt know her.
you have a lot of options, just write all your options down and think about what would happen if you did each one. then work from that which is that best descision.
goodluck.
~*NaDs*~
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I dont feel like my life is important to anyone and that I should die. I feel dead most of the time anyway. I feel ugly and am always depressed and stressed. I need help. I want help. What can I do to help me feel better? (link)
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hey...i dont know if what i'm about to say is going to help. maybe someone elses advice will help more but when i read your question i understood you a lot.
i have had depression for most of my life and in the past 2 years i have felt the same as you feel now. i have come to understand that life IS worth living. you just need to fight the bad times and not take your good times for granted. for a long time i lived only for the people around me. i did not want to be alive but so many people around me weren't letting me go. they didnt understand why i wanted to die, there was no reason for me to live.
but slowly i have realised that life is worth living. think of all those people out there who have cancer for example, they are fighting for their lives because they WANT to be alive. they have been so close to death that they want to live because they realise that life is a gift. they would do anything not to die. i suppose until we have been through something like that we will take life for granted.
please think about this.
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