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I'm going camping next weekend, and my brothers best friend is coming home from college for a visit as well. Well i've always had quite a crush on him, and I've missed him a lot over the time he's been at college, and i'm just wondering... should I tell him how I feel? I'm pretty sure he knows I like him, and everybody in my family thinks he likes me, but I don't know. I'm 14 by the way, and he's 18. I don't want to hear about the age difference thing, just about if I should tell him how I feel, and how. (link)
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I'm with younggrandma on this one -- I had lots of crushes on older guys. They were more mature, and even looking back so was I compared to my peers. And man! -- I thought my heart was going to break if I could not be with them. In my teens I had at least three crushes on olde guys.
One guy lived who lived right next door, and was really cute and had a nice car and pretty girlfriends going in and out all the time. And I just dreamed of the day that he would notice me, well ... it took him about two years and he finally did! I was 16 then, he about 20, and it was like a dream come true -- Until ... he tried to makeout with me the first time we really talked, and even after all that dreaming, I realized I was not ready and he did love me, or even really know me -- he was just going to take advantage of my "crush." I did not let him, I left, and that ended the crush.
I recommend waiting too -- if he does respond in the way you dream, it will almost definitely lead to sex. It is the physical aspect of way we are made. For one, if that happens he could land in jail and for two, when in comes to serious or long-term dating, right now he's probably going to date someone in his own peer group (in college). Either way, you'll be sitting there with your heart in your hands, because you gave a part of you that you can never take back.
Hang on a few years and "wow" him when you are both adults, it's not as far away as you think. If the feeling is still there, and he bites, you will have some wonderful stories to tell of your secret crushes. Keep a diary, it will help you think it through.
Good Luck!
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