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Q: ive been cheated on and lied to and promised it wouldnt happen and i dont know if it is happening, i dont know what to do. i just want things to work after 3years. i feel like if he wanted to be single and do his own thing he has the option and yet it seems like he stays and doesnt tell me everything and i don't how to trust and let go. i really want to, i want to try but its hard.
Girlfriend, I am going through almost the EXACT same thing right now! The lies never stop! I would also say sit him down and talk it over with him. Ive tried rationalizing with mine, it just doesnt work. I hope you have better luck. If that doesnt work, then you need to get away, cause if you catch him lying again and again, and you continuously take him back, whats to stop him? He sees you will keep giving in, so he will keep doing it, but next time, he'll cover his tracks better. 3 years is a long time and Im pretty sure you mean alot to him after that long of a time so I think if you sit him down and just lay it out and BE FIRM, it may scare him enough to change. Unfortunately I did not have the same luck with mine, but hopefully your guy isnt as big a JERK as mine is! :) Whats kinda funny is I can sit here and give you advice, but yet I cant take my own for myself. Good luck!

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