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For year’s iv’e thought my father has been verbally abusive to me our relationship has never been the way a father daughter’s relationship should be recently iv’e thought he is a narcissist father in public in front of people he act’s like the perfect father everything is fine but behind closed door’s that isn’t the case he has told me “I’ve got no brain” “I’m going to end up on the unemployment line and on food stamp’s” “He doesn’t care if he hurt’s me as long as he get’s his point across” “I’m losing at life” He like’s to put the blame on me make thing’s seem like they’re always my fault he rarely admit’s when he’s wrong he has also lifted up the table while i was eating dinner and got in my face
I feel like because iv’e reached the age i am no longer a child or minor that he feel’s like he no longer has to be a parent father to me he can stop i feel like he expect’s me to teach myself everything guide myself through life he has thrown it in my face that he teaches me everything when he is my parent father? He act’s like when it come’s to me everything is tough to do he doesn’t want to be bothered he act’s as if i’m a burden to him inconveniencing him because of him i am afraid to do thing’s around the house even something as simple as laundry i feel as if i am walking on eggshell’s i never know when he’ll strike he’ll abuse me one day then the next day he’ll talk to me act as if nothing happened don’t apologize he’ll act as if it didn’t affect me it’s like a reoccurring cycle he also like’s to mock me whether it’s mocking my word’s or action’s
Moving out isn’t a option moving in with friend’s isn’t a option either i also can’t move in with family because we all don’t live in the same state (link)
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Your father is certainly abusive, and he could very well be a narcissist. You may not be able to get away from him soon, but you really should be working towards that goal. You will find peace and you will find happiness away from this awful home. You say you are not a minor, and that's a good thing. I'm not big on the armed forces, but what if you joined one of the branches. That would at least get you out of that awful house. What about the peace corp? Although they want people with college degrees now. What about college? You may not have any desire to go, but maybe that is because your dad tells you that you are a failure at everything, so why would you want to try. I'll be if you got away from him you would be very successful. I went through the same thing with my mom. I left home at 18, and made a life for myself. I was scared to death, but I just kept putting one foot in front to the other and din't look back. It was hard. Yes, but worth it. I now have a college degree, and own my own home. My mom never changed, until she got Alzheimer.
Getting away from your dad will be the best thing that could happen to you, and you watch...he'll be calling and wanting to see you, and wanting to know how you are doing. He needs someone around to put down, so he can feel better about himself. He needs some serious therapy, but I'm sure he think's he's perfect. Make up your mind to find a job at which you can support yourself and get out. Your family, located in another state, what is the problem with going to live with them for a while. Unless they were raised by the same man. Your life is not going to change, unless you change it. Don't listen to what he says about you. You must get out, and then you will find out exactly what you are made of. You'll find that you can survive a lot, since you have already survived living with him. Good luck to you.
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Thank you so much!! I’m sorry you went through the same thing with your mother you deserve better i wouldn’t wish this type of abuse on anyone i never thought I’d be abused by my own father my dad claim’s i need to go to therapy when iv’e been to many therapist’s psychologist’s to deal with the death of my brother my dad chose not to go i’m glad you were able to make a life for yourself get a college degree your own home you deserve happiness and so much more nothing less!!
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