I am a 16 year old trans female. My name is Samantha, but you may call me Sam. I work better at giving advice about relationships and gender identity. Ask away!
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I am an only child, age 16, and I have a mother and a father. My mother is amazing but my father… is something else.
He makes my mother do anything he wants and controlls her a lot. He does the same to me. He has for years.
He wants me to be the smartest person in all my classes and wants me to do pretty much anything perfectly. If I don't or get something less than an A+ on any of my classes (whice obviously would have happened a lot) he punishes me in ways I don't want to explain.
I'm lucky that he allows me to have friends and some of them knows about this but I made them swear not to tell anyone else or do anything about it. They stay by my side and I love them for that but is it wrong not to have them do anything? What should I do about this? I'm scared and I desperately need help.
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I would request that you ask for some help. Call someone that will be open to your problems and let them help you. I believe calling the police would be best bet. When you do, tell them calmly about the situation and they should be able to help.
Abusive people tend to find ways to make you scared to tell anybody, so that's normal. He is trying to manipulate you and your mother. Try your best not to let him do that.
Or you can talk to your mother in private on how you feel and see if you get how she feels. Talk about what you both think might be right for both of you. Compromise if need be. Plan on the future for when he's gone (if that's what you decide). Is he the only one who works in the family? If so, your mother might need a job. You are now old enough to get a job of your own if you don't already have one. That could help.
Is it your mother that's working and not your father? Or are they both working? If you end up going without your father, you will be alone for however long your mother is at work. How to fix this: Go out. Go with friends. Do something. If it's your mother's day off, see if you can hang out with her whenever possible.
You are a woderful person. You don't deserve this. You have amazing friends who want to help as much as possible. Let them. You won't regret it. Trust me, I know.
I hope this answer help you out at least a little.
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Thank you so very much! This will help me a lot. Thank you.
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