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Hi. I am a thirty year old female. For the past three years of my life, I haven't dated. I haven't messed around with anyone, I just shut myself away... Because I just was tired of being hurt and let down... But this past weekend, I made a horrible mistake, I gotten drunk with my co- workers. And I had sex with my co- worker. And that night, he told me he liked me.... And wanted to have a relationship with me. But the next day, I found out everybody at my job knows. He started acted distinct, he told me he didn't want a relationship, because he wanted to hang out with his friends without me getting angry. But he still wanted to hang out, and get to know me, with a possibility of a relationship in the future. So we made plans to hang out yesterday. And once I arrived to work, he totally ignored me... Only talked to me when he had to. And it just hurts like hell! I'm not that type of girl, I don't sleep around. I don't have one night stands. And it sucks, because he was one of the few people at my job, that I loved and respected, but he just treated me like I was nothing. And, a part of me just want to quit, I feel embarrassed, I'm so ashamed, I feel like crap. Because I made the mistake of mixing business with pleasure. I always usually know what to do, and how to get out of things, but as of now I don't have an idea. What should I do? (link)
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Don't feel ashamed as you are human and things do happen. Getting hurt by a loved one can cause a person to harden their heart, especially when you reopen your heart and try to fall in love again or re-feel what you once lost. To be honest your Co-workers attitude towards you is something that is common, he most likely doesn't know how to express his feelings and is feeling the same way as you are. The only way to understand eachothers feelings is by talking about them. Tell him what you think, how you feel, and who knows you might come to an understanding to make the situation less awkward or better completely solved. You cant expect anything to work out if you don't work for it. Find your confidence to confront the situation, and for a second think of him as a man more than your co-worker. The co-worker thing is what is worrying you, don't think about what others know or what you think that others know, we are all human and many make the same "mistake".
"Think about and take action".
-YARETZI
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