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The past 2 months my boyfriend and I have scraped by. Both unemployed we barely got our bills taken care of and have been living off tuna and eggs. Well we both finally found work. My boyfriend has a lot of debt and needs extra money to pay a bankruptcy lawyer so he took two jobs, one his permenant while one is temporary.
My hours are 3pm-11pm Monday through Friday. This will change after 8 weeks.
His hours.
11pm- 7 am Sunday through Thursday.
9am to 5 pm Monday through Friday this one is temp and ends after 8 weeks
I have no doubt he can handle that much work. He used to work 16 hour shifts a while back.
But, doing the math made me realize I will only see him 2 hours a day and one weekend day. And he also has a child so I know there won't be a lot of time to see him. We have been together a year and a half and we spend a lot of time together.
I do not know how I am going to sleep alone or manage (I know I can do it)
I just want advice.
I know a lot of people have the trial of being apart from the ones they love. How did you cope and what did you do when you had time together? What can I do to show my love when I am not there? (link)
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Its not going to be easy. You are going to get frustrated but just try hard not to let it turn into anger. Obviously, you have to do what you have to do and it won't always be this hectic with work for you guys,so just hang in there. You will adjust quickly to the sleeping alone etc. The biggest obstacle is feeling like you don't see your boyfriend or spend time with him anymore. The best solution? Make the most of the time you do get. So the two hours a day, try do stuff together even going out for a coffee or watching some TV. Just do stuff together, even taking a nap. Its the little things that actually bring the intimacy back. And then on the weekend go have fun, see his kid etc.
Send him messages during the day. "Hope work is going well" etc. It shows you are thinking about him.
Anyway, I hope this helps!
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Thank you. You are right. Those little moments do bring back the spark and I am hoping it will make us both appreciate each other more.
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