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Q: Ok so I'm 25, I'm a female, and pretty much I'm in love with a guy that isn't aware of my existence at all...
We are both from different states,
I first spotted him on Myspace, to facebook, and even twitter...
I thought he was the cutest guy ever, but I'll never
approach a guy, so I just like watched him, from the way he interacts with his friends, I love looking at his pictures, and judging from them he has a sense of humor out of this world.
Like he's the most gorgeous man I've ever laid eyes on, I love the way he dress, he's swag is out of this world...
Not to mention he's a business man, has he's own website, highly out going
Ugh I could go on forever...

So here's this I know I might sound in over my head, but I'm just that hopeless romantic type girl, like I'm the chick who believes in soulmates...
And for some reason I can't get this guy outta my mind.
I want to say something, but I just can't work up the nerve...
I even planned to fly to his city to just see him in person, but even in person I will never have the nerve to even say anything...
I mean, I'm a pretty young lady, I always get approached by men...
But I just want him, or at least a shot...

I'm reaching out to strangers Cuz I could never tell any of my friends, even family this...

What do you think about my situation??
Some of us have been around the block a few times, so we've learned to allow our brains to inform our hearts. So, with that said, why not start out small? The only way you're going to know if you have any future with this guy is to get to know him. Don't go flying to his city and drop in on him unexpectedly - there's a whole host of reasons why that's a bad idea at this point. DO find a way to introduce yourself (or have someone else introduce you) to him. Say "hi" to him on one of his accounts. Start talking to him online. He'll get to know you, and you'll get to know him in a more personal way. If that goes well, realize that both of you are internet personas to each other, and consequently there is a LOT you still won't know about each other, but you should know by this time whether you want to talk by phone and/or meet up in person.

In short, nothing can come of this unless you do something to make that happen. But, the things you do to make that happen need to be safe and smart.

Thank you!!! you make so much sense!

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