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Last Update: April 26, 2016
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months, and he's amazing... He is very respectful, funny, so caring, and absolutely selfless. He does everything for me. I have a prince charming. But I'm selfish.
I've always been a very depressed person, and lately I am so off and on. He gives me everything, and I'm never happy. I always bitch and get jealous and freak... and I just feel horrible. He stays by my side no matter what but I am so close with just breaking it off because I know I shouldn't treat him this way. (link)
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You obviously want to change this situation, only you can do it.
Explain to him how you feel and ask him if he feels able to help you get out of this habitual depressed state you've got into. You'll both have to be strong in different ways, he'll have to learn to step back and allow you to do things for yourself and him too; you'll have to be very determined to act happy and pleasant almost ALL the time.
Give yourself regular time to be quiet, marking any changes in the situation and deciding what to do next. Get your guy to talk to you frankly about how your behaviour affects him and if he sees any improvements there. Try to be even-handed, both negative and positive points should be included. Then try to build on both of these to improve further.
Eventually, you should feel happy, relaxed and glad to be together, it won't be an act any more, being happy won't be a chore, it'll come naturally.
Good luck, hope this helps a bit. Let me know how you get on?
Best wishes xxx.
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Thank you very much... we've agreed to take it one day at a time
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