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Q: Guys I need help... my boyfriend and I been together for about 9months I love him with. Every I have and everytime I've been approched by I guy I tell them that I'm in a relation ship it was so easy at first to turn them down when me and him were happy but now... he's been workin so hard and working long hours to pay for school I get that I support him a 100 percent. I'm really tryin to be there but when he's off he's doin other things .. and when we do talk its not the same he's either he's about to do something or to sleepy to talk everybody says he cheatin I dnt believe that but he's never around but I feel he has time for everything else. And I've never been a cheater but to day I came real close.. I feel so bad .. did a mention we are a long distance relationship. Any advice will help I'm breakin down guys..
It seems to me that you like quality time with your boyfriend and right now he is not able to give you the time you want. He is working on getting his education and this takes a lot of his time. The best thing for you to do is be honest with yourself first and him second. What are you willing to tolerate? He has a lot on his plate and maybe giving you what you want at this time in his life is not able to be done. Are you willing to stick it out or not? The best advice I can give is to find the time to sit and talk with him about what you need and see if he is willing to compromise a little of his time to be with you. If he is not willing or makes excuses why he can't, then the decision is your to be made.

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I'm a reconnection coach. I help women return and reconnect to their authentic inner essence so they can live a more fulfilled life. I am also a dedicated to helping other people, both younger and older, in regards to relationship issues. Relationships are not just limited to boyfriend and girlfriend but parent-child, brother and sister, etc.
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