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My ex-boyfriend and I ended our relationship about a few months ago. It was due to a misunderstanding. Here's the story... about a year ago, I found out that I would have to eventually relocate to a new city with my family about four hours away from where I live now. Now my family lives there and I have stayed back to finish up my years of undergrad left. I have now decided to transfer with two more years left to go. I used to spend vacation time, like winter, etc, with my family at their new residence. When I was there, I forgot about everything down where I was staying because I was close with my family again. I am a family-oriented person and living away from them was very hard for me. During winter break of last year, was the time we stopped talking. We weren't an official couple before winter break. We were broke up. Ok, to clarify, we went out a year ago and then things happened, we called it off and I went out with someone else... he didn't but things didn't work out on my side but he started talking to me again and we eventually hooked back up. We were never an official couple again but we would still talk to each other and we even "consumated" the "relationship." It was our first, and this was a like a month before winter break. We talked about being in a relationship and he's told me that he liked being single with no attachments and freedom. I told him the same thing too, but mostly, I said this because I was afriad to be with him again because we had a first rough breakup.
So during that winter break, I tried to convince myself that I would try to move up to orlando to be with my family and get to know new people. I tried to convince myself that I could have a future with my ex. We spoke almost everyday during the break up until he went on vacation those last weeks. After the vacation, we never spoke back to one another. I ran into him the first week of the semester and without thinking straight, after all that convincing I tried to do to myself, I told him that I was going to move to orlando and that there was nothing left for me here. I think he was upset a little but he said with calmness "oh.. well im sure they should accept you." I had to run because I was going to be late for class but I didnt really get to explain why I made my decision.
I saw him the next day at a party, with an old friend of mine and they were talking to each other. She was very close with him, almost all over him. I was astonished to see this, he ignored me and so much more. I tried to ask him what the matter was over the next few weeks and i got nothing out of him. I finally asked him if he and the girl were talking and he said yes that they like each other, When i asked him why, he said that i shut him out when i was on vacation and that whhen he told me he had feelings for me, i blatantly said i didnt. I never said these things, infact, i said that i stil liked him but because he didnt want a relationship, i didnt either. we were both scared of reality even though we were very close. i dont know why he just changed his mind and didnt give me a chance. the first time we had issues as a couple was because of something similar to this, where he felt that i didnt like him enough and he tried getting with another girl.. that hurt a lot considring he was my first boyfriend...
Its been months and a few weeks ago he sent me an apology stating that he's sorry and he doesnt need to know that i forgive him but i should try to for my own sake so that i can find a guy who can make me happy. he admits he was a jerk and is sorry.
yessterday, i went to his house for a family function and the girl was there. i know they arent a couple but they are talking and he's taking things slow with her , because im guessing he wants things to last. with me, he rushed our realtionship because he wanted things to pick up fast. he already introduced her to his family, something he never did with me. and i dont know, i feel cheated after all these years, he tries to make things oh so perfect with her after we got screwed over. at his house, i felt really sad knowing that this coulld have been where i was given the chance to impress his family.
my parents never knew about our realtionship, they are very strict but hers knows and she has more freedom of being with him. whereas, i didnt. so i dont know how to feel. i feel really sad knowing that one thing i said to him, screwed everything up. i felt like i was right at the time but now, without him, i feel like i was so wrong for saying it. what should i do? (link)
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Honestly now that your relationship has ended and that he is with another person soon to be, you should just move on with your life. Its not a bad thing, it just means that your being strong and willing do better with yourself. You should always put yourself first before others because, the only way that you could help others is if you help your self. : ) Hope you understand, take care..
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