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My boyfriend and I broke up and he returned my things...He was using the strategy to try and talk to me but i was working so he did not catch me home.....i am usually at school on mondays but i had to be at work because my boss forgot and put me on schedule to work....he thought i would be home but i was working....we ended up talking on the phone and he thought that i hd been hanging out with another guy...he didnt trust me....i didnt trust him either....the conversation ended in him breaking up with me. A part of me is relieved and another in denial......I still have some of his tees and hats and stuff like that....I want to return it but in a very classy way. Would going to his work and giving them back while he is on break be a good idea? Or just dropping a box with his things at his door step? I want it to be a pinch for him...I feel it's so immature of him to break up over the phone....I feel like if he saw me it would be a different story... (link)
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How you return his stuff depends on the message you want him to take from it. Do you want him to be sorry that he dumped you or not?
Revenge is a common reaction to being dumped, ripping up clothes, breaking CDs and other stuff then leaving it outside his door in a bin bag is very satisfying but immature and destructive.
You could post his belongings; drop them off at his work, in a smart bag with a card saying "Thank you for giving me my kife back!"; you could ask a friend to give them to him, as you're SO upset; or just bag them, knock on his door, hand them over, give a dazzling smile and leave, without saying a word.
The choice is yours. I'd rather be classy and rederved than spiteful and nasty; depends on how you want him to remember you.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Best wishes X.
To answer your question on the ratings page, yes, sending him a text to say you've left his stuff at the door is OK, shows you care that he gets them back. After all, if he didn't get them back, he'd have a motive to contact you again. Move on but don't tread on him too hard. Who knows, he might be the next mechanic servicing your car, or dentist taking your teeth out! Vest wishes X.
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You are very right lol....The way I present his things will reflect the type of person I am...I think I will just leave them at his door. His apartments are kind of weird because you can't just enter the complex..you have to have a key...do you think it would be okay to send him a text to let him know that his things will be there waiting for him?
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