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I'm M/16. For the last two years I've been lonely & depressed. I've been watching porn almost everyday after school for a long time. I read some articles on porn addiction. They basically described my life & mind. Selfish, always lusting, etc. I truly believe that if I can get rid of this addiction, I'll feel a lot better. But its been so impossible for me to quit during the past two years. I want to so badly but I basically get possessed at night. I'm not the same person anymore either. I used to do well in school but not anymore. I barely have any girls to talk to, I'm always nervous and tense around them, and I just recently ruined it with a girl I liked. Is there still hope for me? I'm hoping that if I stop ASAP, I'll slowly heal, but I'm not too optimistic anymore. I'm so dumb. I've been trying to fix this depression, and look for causes when all along the big problem is right in my face, right in my head. But I cannot get it out, it's killing me. I also feel like I'm too deep in to heal. (link)
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Like drugs, alcohol, tobacco and sex, pornography can become an addiction. I think the best way to beat it is to take it very slowly and give yourself rewards for doing without it for increasinlgly longer periods of time. Make a list of rewards, things you really enjoy doing that are not connected with porn - a walk in the park, chatting with a girl, new clothes, playing football with friends, a night out.
Use the rewards as a 'bribe' to hold you away from the porn for half hour, building up slowly to a whole week without watching any porn at all! A big goal but one you can achieve if you really want to drop this addiction. You may need support so if you can think of a family member or friend who can talk you around from doing it again, that'll help.
I think the porn is what makes you uneasy and nervous when talking to girls. WHen watching porn you're treating girls as sex objects. When you meet them in person, you're unsure how to deal with them anymore. As you try to shake off this addiction, you could also try to find somewhere you could meet girls as friends in a relaxed atmosphere.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Keep in touch if you need further encouragement.
Best wishes x.
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Thanks, I've gone a week before and it felt great, but I always relapse on that one bad day.
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