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Okay I'll try to make this short.
My friend and I have been friends for about 2 years now. In late September of 2011 her husband, her and I engaged in a threesome, then another one a week later. I visit their house about 2-3 times a week. Ever since the threesome her husband has been really flirty with me (but never in front of her.)
He makes out with me in their house when my friend is in the other room, when she goes to the bathroom he takes his penis out and puts my hand on it. I've given him oral sex about 7 times since September, but never anything more.
Another thing he does is we chat on facebook and have pretty inappropriate conversations about sex and 'things we would like to do to each other.'
I want this to stop, after all, he is my Best Friends husband. I get that this isn't his fault, I am also involved. I'm just nervous to tell him that I want to stop, and I don't know how, so I guess that's what I'm looking for advice on. Also, I don't know whether or not I should tell her.
Has anybody ever been in a similar situation where they engaged in sexual activity with their friends partner? I get that what I have done is a VERY bad thing, now I'm just looking for advice on how to rectify the situation.
So... Do I tell her? and How do I tell him that I want to stop without messing up the friendship that he and I have?
Thank you.
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This is some situation!
When you had the threesome thing, it was sort of an unwritten contract between you, everyone knew what was happening. Now, you and her husband have decided to do your own thing, apparently without his wife's knowledge. If I were her, I'd consider this a breach of the contract between yourwelf and her and also an abuse of trust between you all.
Whatever you do, you risk losing one or both of them as friend/lover and being very hurt yourself.
I'd get out now, as cleanly as possible, with as few people hurt as possible. If you decide to try this kind of relationship again, try to arrange it that everyone knows who's doing what, where and when to avoid a similar mess to the one you're in now.
Hope this helps, keep in touch and let me know how you get on? Best wishes.
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Thank you for your advice. It's just hard to make a decision on what to do because I don't want to lose either of them, but the more I think about it, the more I realize that I don't want to lose him, and that's a terrible thing to say. :/ I really appreciate your advice, thank you again.
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