Member Since: September 16, 2011
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Last Update: September 16, 2011
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I just got out of a realllllly bad relationship with this guy that betrayed me so badly, after being with him for years.. he started being close to all these girls and totally forgot i even existed, anyway so theres this guy in my school i talked to twice, my best friend hates his guts cause when they were younger he used to pick on her, im not sure if he still does pick on her or not but honestly i think that she needs to let it go since they were young, and they both dont like eachother but i dont honestly think i have anything to do with it, hes been kind of showing me that hes intrested in some ways,im not sure, but i dont want anything serious at all, i dont really want anything at all, i just want a friend because i didnt really have any because my ex was so controlling.. so basically i just want to feel desirable again, but nothing more than friends, my best friend told me shed think i was a horrible best friend if i were ever friends with this guy cause it would be betraying her and making her look bad, but i dont think so , what do you think? do you think she needs to grow up a little and let me be free? or do you think im a bad friend? honest answers please. thank you. (link)
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I really think that you should take your best friend's feelings into account for sure. I have been in similar situations and a guy really is not worth losing someone as special as your best friend over, you know? Who have to think long term in some situations. Like, who will most likely be there longer and really care for you.
As for the dude who seems to be interested in you, you say you just want to be good friends with him, but do you really think it's OK to be leading him on the way you are? I mean, if you really, desperately need this guy in your life then I think it'd be wise to sit him down and tell him what you are looking for, not a boyfriend, but a friend. And it'd also be respectful to him as a person and his feelings, along with yours too.
I hope this helped you, and I wish you the best in your situation. But really think about the whole best friend issue first off before going and doing anything with this guy.
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Thank you for your advice, honestly i dont like him at alll, i just like the attention from him because of how messed up i feel currently you know? but yeah ill def put my friend first, its not a big deal, i just felt guilty about it, shes my best friend, but sometimes i feel like she can be a bit childish you know? thank you for your advice anyway:)
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