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I have two friends who I've known for a few years and in this time they've made their feelings known for each other which is fine by me. The trouble is, he doesn't know what he wants, where as she wants a long term relationship with him. She keeps asking me for advice and I'm just running out of things to tell her. I tell her that if something was going to happen, I think it would have happened by now. But then things do happen, like they kiss or he tells her he loves her and loves spending time with her but then seems to pretend like it never happened. When she asks him if they're going to get together he says maybe, I just don't know what I want. They're planning to go away on holiday together for two weeks in June this year and she wants to know if she should go all the way with him, but she doesnt want to ruin their friendship as she thinks he'll just pretend like it never happened, which will mean she will end their friendship because things haven't changed, which would also ruin my friendship with them too. What advice should i give her?

Thanks in advance!

He certainly seems smitten with her but i think she's putting a little too much pressure and expectation on him. They're clearly past the "just friends" stage and have, consciously or not, already decided that it was worth risking their friendship for the possibility of a romantic relationship.
The best thing your friend can do on this holiday is back off a little and let them both get to know eachother in a more intimate way and discover how compatible they are as more than just friends.Hopefully that'll give them enough understanding of themselves and eachother to know whether they want to go further with this or not.
This could also be a time for them to open up a little more and communicate. She can let him know that this indifference he has whenever she tries to talk to him wont be tolerated and she deserves his honesty.
They both have a part to play in this and its time to stop the games and just be straight with eachother.

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