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Ok I have never EVER been jealous of a partner's ex before. Except now I have.

In all honesty, I dont even know why I am jealous. I have seen many pictures of her & she isnt ugly, but I wouldnt say shes pretty, she doesnt really make an effort with herself. So I know that its not the looks thing.

In fact I dont know if its jealousy. Id rather be in my situation than hers. But for some reason I couldnt stop looking at pictures of her & my boyfriend together. & im interested in seeing what shes doing now, like if she has a new boyfriend, what shes been up to, looking at her pics etc.

They split about 2 months before we got together & its played on my mind whether he still likes her, they were together for 8 months. My boyfriend denies still liking her but I think he only says that because he doesnt want to admit to it. I know he loved her because I was friends with him & saw them together & he told me he did.

I think its because im quite a competitive person & id hate to feel second best, what do you think? has anyone felt this way before?

Ive been in this situation myself. Your problem is just the nerves of the situation. The key reason why you feel this way is because you were friends with your bf at the same time that he was with her. You heard him say from his own mouth how much he loved her and why. What gets to you is that unlike any other relationship most likely you've never been in one where your bf has been your friend when he was with his ex. You had a chance with your past bf's to just start something new without knowing anything of their past lives. So its easy to go from their without being jealous or even curious of their past life. But because your current bf was your friend while they were together, and you've heard the way he talked of her, Its just hard for you to believe him when he says he doesn't still like her. And it only bothers you because you had knowledge of the sincerity and depth of their relationship. What do you do? Just talk to him and ask him why he loves you, what he tells you should be enough to keep your curiosity of "them" at a minimum.

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