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18/female.

I dated Rob for a year and we were inseparable. Our one year was a little over a week ago. That day, he said "I love you" to me for the 1st time. I said it back, because when he said it to me, it felt right. I even cried because I was so happy that we had finally said it to each other.

A day after our one year, I spent a week on vacation at a beach resort that I go to every year with my family. Since it is relatively close to where we live, Rob came up to visit me while I was on vacation. Things were good when he was there, and when he had to go home, I missed him.

After he left, I still had a few days left in my vacation. It's kind of an weird situation, but my parents recently got divorced, and my dad invited a lady that he'd met to come and spend a day at our vacation home. It was the first time I'd met her and her three kids. She has a son named Vic and he had a friend with him named Ben. They are two years younger than me, but they act and look like they are the same age as me.

I was immediately drawn to Ben. He was not only physically attractive, but I felt like I could really connect with him. He was extremely kind and respectful to me, and really made an impression on me that is not going away. Even though I only spent time with him for one day, I feel as though he "gets" me, and that is a rare feeling.

When I got home from vacation, things didn't feel right with Rob. We didn't have much to talk about, and we got in an argument. I ended up spilling my guts about how I was feeling bad about saying "i love you," and we sat in silence for a while. After that, we talked for a long time about our relationship.

We decided to stay together that night, but the next morning I woke up to tons of lovey-dovey texts from him. It really turned me off for some reason. I didn't want to even think about him. After he noticed I was acting weird, he said that we should talk later.

We did, and we broke up. It was mutual, because he said that he felt weird when he said "I love you" to me too. We both cried and kissed for one last time. I really care for him, and it still hasn't sunk in that we broke up yet.

I sort of think that I always knew that I didn't have "true love" with Rob. I guess I just needed to realize that there are other guys out there that "get" me, and there are other guys out there that I'm compatible with that I'm also attracted to. Ben isn't the reason we broke up, but it contributed.

While we dated, I felt smothered. I was constantly in communication with Rob, texting and calling each other all day every day. We were always together and always knew what the other was up to. It was terrible for me, because I like to be independent. We have been broken up for two days, and I feel very free, but I also feel crushed at times.

Now, things are awkward with Rob. We both work at the same fast food restaurant, and today I had the night shift. He wasn't working, but he came in with a bunch of people that he knows I'm not fond of. It was pretty dead, so everyone else that was working was talking and laughing with Rob. I felt sick to my stomach, and I was nearly in tears.

During this, Rob was being really friendly to me, and he asked me for a hug, so I hugged him. When I got home from work, I found out that he tried to make plans with my sister to hang out with him and the people he was with. I was so upset that I cried my eyes out because he knows about my relationship with my sister and how much I resent her because I feel like all of my old friends replaced me with her once I drifted apart from them.

I am so confused. I know that I don't want to be with Rob, but it hurts so bad seeing him. I am so angry at him, and the worst part is that he appears to be fine.

I'm also confused about Ben, too. But I don't even want to think about that, because I feel too guilty for even thinking about another guy while I had a boyfriend.

Help!!!!:(

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