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I am leaving for college in the fall and planning on staying together with my boyfriend. There is a handful of people I know who have actually made it through their freshman year with out breaking up. Has anyone gone through something like this... How did you make it work? Do alot of these people end up cheating? Everyone keeps telling me to break up with my boyfriend before college... And I know it make sense, but I can't break up with someone I love without a legit reason.

Hello :)

Well personally, I am living with my boyfriend and have been together for three years already. We felt that it would be best if we didn't go away for college. So I have no hands on experience with this kind of questions.

Now, on that note, there are two sides to this story. Yours, and his. If both of you guys believe in a MONOGAMOUS relationship, and you're sure that he will think before he does anything, then go ahead with the plan (you going to your college, and him to his.) The reason so many people tell you to break up is because when you dorm away at college, you meet lots of new people, including roommates. And I am assuming plenty of co-ed get togethers happen. Drugs and alcohol, etc. And since all of these things influence the way you lead your life at college, there are possibilities of your significant other cheating, falling in love with someone else, or getting tired of not being able to see you and have the time that a couple needs.

Personally, if your boyfriend and you are mature enough to abstain from any bad behaviors at college, it is possible to maintain a relationship. It will be hard but love is love, right?

So, the decision is up to you BOTH. Make sure to talk to him about this. Maybe he's thinking about these things too, and is afraid to upset you. Let him know how you feel, tell him your thoughts, ask him questions.

You haven't mentioned how long you two have been together, so I'm assuming the relationship is serious for the sake of the question lol.

Good luck! And be good at college haha

Uniq :)

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