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Okay, so i'm fifteen years old
and i'm so insecure about what I look like.
Alot of people think i'm pretty, but for some reason I don't feel it.
I have a really low self esteem.
I worry about my weight, not because i'm too fat
but because i'm too skinny. i'm 5'4 and I weigh 98lbs. I have NO boobs, and NO butt. People Judge me all the time for that.
My body isn't the only thing I don't like about myself, I also hate my teeth I have had sooo many people say stuff about them, they used to be really yellow but I was recently taken to the dentist and I had that taken care of but I still feel like my smile isn't pretty.
People at school always talk about how i'm too skinny, it emotionally scars me because theres nothing I can do to fix my body!
I'm really shy only at school though, because i'm sooo worried about what people are thinking about me, though at home I can be myself because I know my family won't judge me.
what are some things I can do to higher my self esteem. I'm sooo sick of people at school saying stuff about me. (link)
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Hi
just want to comment on the use of hydrogen peroxide. It is used in bleaching hair, disinfectants and in antiseptics. It can be used as a tooth paste/ teeth whitener but please make sure you use the product which is intended for this use! Therefore it is a good idea to find a toothpaste and/or mouthwash that contain hydrogen peroxide rather than making one yourself.
Found the following online:
Large oral doses of hydrogen peroxide at a 3% concentration may cause "irritation and blistering to the mouth, (which is known as Black hairy tongue) throat, and abdomen", as well as "abdominal pain, vomiting, and diarrhea.
The Hydrogen Peroxide sold in drug and grocery stores contains chemical stabilizers that makes it unsafe to use as a mouthwash. It should be considered, and is usually labeled as for EXTERNAL USE ONLY - Do Not Ingest!
I sucked my thumb when I was younger and so had to get braces..I have the braces off now but I still feel like me teeth sick out and I'm not happy with my smile. I think it will just take time for your confidence to grow and for you to forget about your teeth. When you mature (get older) your focus will change and you will become happier with how you look.
You need to focus on what you do like about yourself. As suggested ask your friends. A little bit of confidence can go a long way.
Your peers will all judge themselves just like you do, except it will probably be that they think they are too fat or need to tone up. Everyone is self conscious it just varies at how good they are at hiding it.
It is also because of this that they might target you. It will make them feel better about themselves. They may not even realise they are hurting you because as they make comments about other people all they focus on are themselves and how it makes them feel good.
To have positive self esteem you have to look in the mirror and maybe not love what you see but accept it for being you. I see so many faults when I look in the mirror but I'm happy because there are so many worse off people than me. Imagine if you were overweight, how hard would it be for you to lose that weight and change your life style? Imagine if you have rotten teeth or teeth that sick out? Imagine if you have a face covered in acne? These are things many/all girls have to face and when comparing their battles to your own you can see how lucky you are. Even if you think you have all of these things it is your personality that makes you shine brighter and more beautiful than those around you and that can only show through if you are happy being you.
You body will change over time just be patient, and in the mean time do positive things to help this change, don't suddenly increase your food consumption or change what foods you eat in hope to gain weight, that isn't healthy. You are you and they are they, hell I am me. I would kill to have a body like my friends but how realistic/healthy is killing over it? I now see how stupid that is and am happy that I am me, because my friends who I idolise have things wrong with them that I would hate, their personalities, morals, values, how they treat others. As long as I am happy with how I treat people I am happy with me.
To want to change because of people who make you feel unhappy because what your teeth were a bit yellow, you have no butt, etc, that’s selling yourself short.
Sorry to go on and on but I always hated my breasts, wished I had small ones (probably like you have) and don’t get me started on my butt! So do you see everyone has insecurities which make no sense to other people!
In time you will see this and as you mature you will become happier for being you and not sacrificing apart of yourself to be like someone else who wishes they were like you.
I hope I have helped in some way.
Oh and one more thing I have a friend who is over 6 foot, people always point it out and I know it emotionally scars her. But what is she to do? Shrink? That’s not possible so is she meant to face everyday unhappy with her height or can she accept that she is tall and learn to be okay with it and love herself, also use it to her advantage. Now imagine that my friend was naturally really skinny..what would you want her to do?
Here are some quotes I have found which make me feel happier about myself.
"I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you, except yourself"
"The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique." Walt Disney
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Wow! that was really good advice thanks :)
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