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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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So this guy and I have been really close friends since september...He only told me about a month or two ago that he likes me a lot....i never saw him in that way so we stayed friends...he has done so many things for me to prove how much he cares...like getting me two new phones when i lost the ones that I had....helping me find things that i had lost....being there for me when i was down and etc....I started liking him only about two weeks ago......we talk on the phone and see each other all the time at school....the one problem I have with him is that he is so demanding...like when we hang out he will kiss me or whatever, but he ends up wanting too much....like he wants to have sex...it becomes to the point where he is pushing everything too much...i can't take it....it makes me feel like he wants me for sex...but then at the same time I think of everything he has done for me and how he treats me when he's not trying to be all freaky....i don't know what to do...I have told him that i have standards. I'm seventeen, and i'm not ready to give up my virginity to any guy yet...He doesn't quiet understand for some selfish reason, and its getting on my nerves because it has happend twice...i really don't know what to do....what do you guys think about this situation? thank you so much for reading this.
You have to be firm. Let him know if he wants you to like him back, he has to stop being so demanding. Tell him flat out that you are not ready to have sex, you won't be ready for a long time, and if you change your mind he will be the first to know. Tell him next time he throws himself at you, you are going to end the friendship.
Tell him how much you appreciate everything he does for you, but sex is not something you are willing to return the favors with. Let him know you really do like him, but not when he acts pushy and creepy. Being firm doesn't make you a bitch. It just means you know what you want, and a guy isn't going to change your values.
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(Rating: 5) thank you so much....you are right...if he really likes me he will be respectful of my values.