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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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im 15 years old and in the 9th grade ive been best friend with this girl named rebecca, we've been best friends since 6th grade and we were pretty much inseperable! we hung out every chance we could, she's slowly starting to change though and now its like she doesnt even want to hangout with me anymore. everytime i ask her to hang out with me shes always like ''i cant im grounded'' or ''my moms being gay and wont let me do anything'' and then like 20 minutes later on myspace she'll post her status as hanging out with so and so! when she just told me she was grounded. why would she lie to me? i mean i understand shes going to have other friends but that doesnt mean she has to get rid of all of her old ones.i'd rather her tell me the truth then lie to me, if she doesnt want to hangout with me i'd rather her just tell me instead of her just making some lame excuse! i mean why would she tell me shes grounded and then post that on myspace when not only is she my friend on there but i was online too! im her only true friend and she treats me like dirt, she doesnt even talk to me at school she just walks past me and looks at me. she took me off her top and everytime i try taking to her shes really short with me expecially when shes with her other friends. i even bought her something for christmas i messaged her on myspace saying that i got her a gift and that if she wanted me to i would bring it by after my mom gets off. all she replied back with is i have a friend over and then she signed off! i still havent been able to give her gift, because she still has no time for me. i want to confront her about it but i have no idea what to say i dont want her to hate me because she is my best friend i just dont know what to do. i actually care about our friendship and is willing to do anything i can to fix it so any advice will help!
You are not alone, as you probably can already tell from the advice you have received. I too went through the same thing. It's heartbreaking, so I can understand how you must be feeling.
You guys are growing up, and as you grow up you will find yourself growing apart from many of your old friends, but you will also get closer to many new ones. When the same thing happened to me I just stopped trying. Why would I want to hang out with someone who didn't want to hang out with me? I made new friends. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. High school is hard enough without having to make new friends, but I did. You can too.
Make peace with the situation. I didn't do that, and spent the next four years of my life at odds with this girl. She obviously disliked me for ignoring her and making new friends, and I disliked her for ditching me in the first place. We talked shortly after graduation, and even hung out once. We haven't spoken since, but I feel better knowing we don't hate each other. It's nice knowing it doesn't have to end like that.
If you feel up to it, confront her. Don't ask to go to her house, just do it. Be polite, but let her know how you feel. Explain your hurt and call her out on being a coward. Then tell her you have no desire to be friends with someone who doesn't care about you. Wish her well, and then leave. Meet new people, make new friends. You can do it with a little self esteem :)
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(Rating: 5) wow that was the best advice ive gotten!
thanks :)