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This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...
I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.
Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.
But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do? (link)
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Either way, someone is gonna be mad at you. You might hurt your friendship with Donald, but also ruin any chance you might have with Brandon. You need to choose which is more important to you. Can you live without Donald being your friend or hurt Brandons feeling and risk a relationship with him? I think you should tell Donald that you want to try and begin a relationship with Brandon, so you cannot do anything sexual anymore. But you still want to hang out and be friends. If he is really your friend and not using you for sex, then he will understand. In fact, if he really doesn't want a relationship with you, then he should be happy for you. It could also, make Donald jealous, which might change his feelings for you. This situation goes along with two quotes. "Everything happens for a reason", and "People dont realize what they have until its gone." So there are two scenarios that might play out here. 1. You are able to start a relationship with Brandon and know you didn't cheat on him. 2. Donald will get so jealous that he may want you, the way you want him. Just remember that true friends care about you and not just themselves. They will stand behind and respect your decisions. I say, give this relationship with Brandon a chance, since he likes you. If Donald is gonna cheat on his gf's with you, do you think he will stop cheating if you are in a relationship with him. Good luck!! Let me know how it turns out
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Me & Brandon broke up...turns out I didn't really like him as much as I thought I did. I think I just fell in love with the fact that I could see his friend when I wanted.
As for Donald me and him still talk and hang out, but I'm currently dating someone else so it's nothing like it used to be... & i like the way things turned out :)
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