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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Advice
Forgive me this is a bit long but please listen..
I have a friend who is 7 weeks pregnant, We have been friends for 13 years. She is not married, Lives at home with her parents and is always asking me for money to help with her gas or too pay for her when we go out.
Since she told me she was exspecting her first child which was about 4 days ago, I have not wanted anything to do with her only because she is not ready to have a child and I am not happy with the decision of her keeping it..However it is her life and she is 23 years old and old enough to make her own choices. Before I found out she was pregnant I have not talked to her in some time because she hasn't been the best of friend to me for a few months now she has lied to me, betrayed me and even talked badly about me behind my back. I know for a fact if I continue to be friends with her all I am going to hear is how she is exspecting this baby etc.. and I frankly don't really want to hear it as I have my own issues and problems in life. I do not know how to tell her I no longer wish to be her friend and I think we should part ways, I don't want to come across as shallow but I have my reasons for not wanting contact with her she is also the type of person where I need to be straight forward with her to get the point across.
It's rude of you to judge her and say she isn't ready to have a baby. Like you said, it's her life so let her make her own decisions and don't chastize her for it. It really doesn't matter if you are not happy with her decision, because it's not your decision to make. And you would be suprised about how quickly a baby MAKES you grow up, whether you are ready for it or not.
Anyways, if you don't want to be friends with her, then don't be. You don't have to call her up and say, "Hey, I don't like you anymore, so I don't think we should hang out." Just decline her offers to hang out, and gradually stop answering her phone calls. It's that simple. You all aren't children, you are adults. So start acting like one. :)
...And I did read what you wrote. That doesn't change my answer in any way, shape, or form.
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