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Q: i still don't know what to do:(
this is so hard.
and i know he equals a heartbreak but so would any other guy. but i forgot some of the stuff he had told me.
he had said that he wanted to go out with me but he wasn't ready and he didn't realiz how much he really liked me until after he fucked up. and he said he loved me a lot as a friend and wanted to someday love me a lot as a girl friend and ugh! i just don't know what to do. i'm stuck and clueless! like part of me wants to just forget about him and the other half of me wantes to give him a second chance. i'm sooo screwed and i'm really bad at following my heart/:
It's okay. These things are always hard!
He said he wasn't ready for a relationship with you at the moment. Which means, the friends option is the best for now. Don't push it, because, he'll hurt you again.
I'm sure he really does like you a lot! And it's good he told you that he realizes what he did was wrong and all. But, again..he's young. This will most likely happen again. I think the smartest thing to do would be to just stay friend and still keep your eyes open for any other nice guy's you may like. I'm not saying forget about this guy. I know it's really hard to do that. I would tell you to wait for him, because you obviously have a lot of feelings for him still. But, that's wrong. You shouldn't wait for anybody. That causes more heartbreak than anything!
So, I'm not going to tell you what to do. It's your choice.
If you'd rather just keep it as friends and move on, then do that! There's nothing wrong with being just friends.
Or, if you'd rather be friends now and wait for this guy to be ready and learn not to cheat, then do that if it's truly what you want. But, I must warn you..I've also been through this before. It's not easy at all. And it doesn't always mean the feelings will stay, that's why waiting for someone is so risky.

If I were you in this situation: I'd tell him that you both can remain friends for now. I would, if the option came up, date other people. And hey, if you're single one day..and he is too (and he's changed) then why not go for it?!

Just please, if you really want to be with him, wait until you are 100% sure he will remain faithful to you!

Here's a few links that may help you out. It's basically all about "Should I take him back?":
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090821173606AA7ZGS8
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlecosmo.aspx?cp-documentid=11839418
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/33695

Good luck, Hope I helped :).
Feel free to inbox me if you need anymore advice!

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ahh we talked for fifty minutes tonight/:

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