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i feel really bad for some reason about myself.
like im starting to wonder why people like me..
anyone know how to help me?

Hey =]

Sounds like you've had too much time to think recently or else you're getting stuck inside you're own head and overthinking everything. The ultimate solution is to stop thinking so much,which is quite a difficult thing to do, so I am going to explain some things that helped me because I used to be a bit like this from time to time.
First of all if you're thinking about this kind of stuff it means you're probably lacking from distractions in you're life. You need to get out and do something, don't think about whether everyone likes you or not, just get out with some friends, most importantly do something different, because that means you'll find it interesting and it'll hopefully distract you.
Secondly, (I understand this is quite hard at first but when you persist it really works)everytime a negative thought comes into my head that makes you feel bad about yourself just say 'NO' inside you're head, literally and then try and replace the thought with something different. You need to do this everytime otherwise you will just continue to have negative thoughts.
Thirdly, this is probably the best advice anyone ever gave me, don't worry about things, do what you can to ensure everything goes as well as possible and that you're doing what you can to achieve what you want, but if you've done that, then you shouldn't worry because at the end of the day worrying can't physically change anything.
Hopefully that can help you deal with the 'wondering if people like you', as for feeling bad about yourself well there are several things to take into consideration. For example are you truthful to yourself, I mean do you really behave like you want to or as others tell you to? Do you lie alot? Are you constantly trying to compete with people and trying to be better than them at everything? Theres a million other questions I could ask but what I'm essentially trying to highlight is that if you're not being yourself and are trying to be something you're not, then, deep down, you wont be happy. So maybe thats why you aren't happy about yourself. The only other reason I can think of is that you are so worried about another people not liking you that you are starting to think that there must be something wrong with you. So to deal with this you should just think of what I said about worrying earlier.

Hopefully some of this is relevant and helps out, I hope you feel better regardless =)

Mike

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much!
you made me feel a whole lot better.
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