Hi, this is Kate. I'm 17. My life motto is 'Live Laugh Love', I really think those are great words to live by and I'm planning to have it made into a tattoo. I'm not religious but I love learning about different religions. I write stories based on things that have happened to me because sometimes I have days where I just think 'wow that sounds like something out of a book'. I've finished 3 stories and I'm about to start my first horror story..very exciting. I believe in fairy tale love...the kissing in the rain, staring at the stars on the rooftop kind of love..Why? Because I'm in that kind of love and its been the greatest time of my life. And it didn't come easy.
I'd love to help you with whatever issues come your way. I've been in relationships where the guy was too old for me, the guy was my best friend, the guy just wanted to get some. I've been the other woman but I'm not proud of it. I've been the girl who waits years to be with the guy she wanted.
I come from the type of home where everyone seems okay and then when everyone leaves its chaos. My parents should have been divorced years ago and I can't stand to be around either of them so for now I'm going day by day, only coming home to sleep and counting down the days until I go to college in August.
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I'm 5'8 and I weigh 90lbs. I've always been very skinny. My mother, grandmother, grandfather and father are all skinny, too. I have two older brothers and they're both skinny. It's obvious to me that being tall and skinny just runs in my family. My family knows this so I hardly get complaints from them.
My problem is dealing with boyfriends/friends/random people. I've never seen a person run up to an overweight person that they don't know and say, "Dude! You're fat as hell. Do you have an overeating disorder or something??" But I've had random people on the street and in stores come up to be and say things like, "Holy crap. You're so skinny. Are you anorexic or bulimic or something?"
I don't have any eating disorder. In fact, I eat extremely healthy. But can you imagine if someone did have anorexia/bulemia and someone randomly said that to them?
Every time someone gets angry with me, they call me anorexic/bulimic. It's extremely irritating because it makes me self-conscious and makes me think that people are always thinking those things about me.
I have so much trouble with my current boyfriend about it. He asks me every single time he talks to me about what I've eaten since the last time he talked to me. He has to know that I don't have an eating disorder since we go out to dinner together and eat together often.
I feel very unattractive due to people criticising me over my weight. When I meet people, they say one of two things, if not both: 'You're so quiet' or 'You're so skinny'. Usually both at some point within the first few minutes of meeting me.
How can I explain to people like my boyfriend, friends, and random people that don't know me that it's very insensitive to talk about people's weight. Yeah, we all know overweight people usually develop a low self-esteem when messed with about their weight; why don't people think the same would go for skinny people? I can't get through a day without two or three people making comments about my weight, asking me what I've eaten, or saying things like, 'You're so skinny it's nasty' or 'Do you have an eating disorder?' or 'You need some meat on your bones' or 'Guys like girls with curves'
I already know all of these things, yet random people feel the need to tell me about it. I try to be nice/friendly about it, but half the time I just want to say, 'Oh yeah? Screw you.' I just don't care. If everyone left me alone about it, I wouldn't even think about what other people thought about me. I honestly don't care if people think I'm too skinny. I just don't want to hear about it all the time.
So, I guess what I'm asking is, what should I do about this? Am I being too sensitive? I think it just bothers me because I've been dealing with it nearly every day for seven years. I'm getting sick of it.
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I used to be 5'6 and about 90-95lbs and I would get all the comments about being too skinny. I would eat healthy but deffinately wasn't afraid of junk food.I got so tired of having to convince people that I didn't have an eating disorder and just had a fast metabolism that I basically forced myself to eat twice as much as I usually would and I loaded up on junk food and protein shakes. It took two years but my highest weight got to be 119lbs. But..from all the junk food I had been eating I developed Hypoglycemia which is a blood sugar disorder and now I can't overstuff myself or I'll be sick so my weight dropped to 112lbs which is my average now at 5'7. If I want to bulk up I do so by building muscle.
If you want to change your image I suggest working out and protein because it's a healthy way to gain weight. As far the rude comments go, I've been there. You can't really control what people are going to say about you or to you. I've thrown back a couple "F*** you"s to people who caught me on a bad day and just felt the need to add a "Go eat something" or "you're just skin and bones". I actually had a teacher tell me to 'go eat a sandwich' one time. Thankfully my friends know I eat more than most of them so they don't give me grief about it anymore. You're not being too sensitive!! Its annoying and rude and we both know if someone was obese a majority of people would not go up to them and ask them if their obesity was due to an eating disorder. It's still something I struggle with and I'm trying to gain another 5-10lbs so my arms aren't so tiny. I'm not trying to tell you that you have to change but if you want to that's how I gained some weight and dealt with the issue.
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Thanks so much for your response. It's nice to see that I'm not the only one with an issue like this. In the past when I've tried to bring it up, people have said things like, "Oh, please. You're lucky to be so small." I don't want to change my image at all. I'm totally satisfied with my weight, but the second someone makes a nasty comment like, 'Anorexia much?' or 'How about eating every now and then?', I feel like I'm completely going to lose it. I've went off on people in the past year, but the six years before that I just took it and smiled politely before walking away. I'm sorry you've gone through this too, and even gotten a health problem because of it. Your post put things into perspective for me and I don't feel so alone about it anymore. Thanks again (:
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