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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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okayy so i hung out with my ex and one of my best friends and then we met up with 2 other friends, so it was the 5 of us. it was chill, we talked like friends would talk, nothing serious. he brought up things from the past though like i had my favorite necklace on my mirror in the car and he pointed that out and one of my favorite songs was on the radio so he stopped and let it play saying "oh you love this song" when he doesn't like it. then at the end of the night i didn't feel like getting up so i said to like everyone "can someone give me a piggy back ride to the car" and he gave me one. he's been really chill and i want him back, but i don't want to come on too strong. so my questions are, 1. when should i ask him if he wants to go on vacation with me? (he probably does cause he wants me to teach him how to surf lol) and 2. should i just keep hanging out as his friend or should i hint i still love him? if so, how? thank you soo much..i should seriously be paying you haha.
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Like I said before, I don't think it's a good idea to go on vacation with him if you two are "just friends."
The fact that he is bringing up things from the past when you guys dated is a good sign though. That means he still thinks about you, and he doesn't have any hard feelings toward your past relationship.
If you are going to ask him to the beach then that's fine, but you have to let him know that you do still have feelings for him. This can't go on like it is, because you are going to end up getting your heart broken. If he is going to go to the beach with you, he needs to be aware that you are still in love with him. It wouldn't be fair to either of you if you didn't tell him.
EDIT: I can't answer a question from the feedback you give me. I have no place to send it to you.
I have told you what I think many times. You should tell him BEFORE you go to the beach. I have told you in past questions that I don't think it's a good idea to go to the beach with him under false pretenses. Apparently you think it's a good idea, and if that's the case then by all means follow your instincts. I have let you know what I think, but obviously we think two different things.
Do what you feel is right if you don't agree with me. :)
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(Rating: 5) thanks..but like the problem with telling him before is that it might scare him off into not wanting to go..and i think it'd be a better chance if we were just on the beach and the mood was set you know? and we were away from our town and everything..what do you think?