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Age: 22
Member Since: June 8, 2009
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Last Update: September 30, 2009
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Hey,okay so im having problems with my best guy friend
we have litteraly been friends since we were about 6 grew up together and that,can literally tell each other everything im probably closer to him then i am with my best girl friend.
anyway lately hes got a bit distant not overly but he used to text me every day always left me one or two x's etc,but now his texts have gotten really short just one worded answers no x's or smily faces so automaticly i sense somethings up.
i ask him is he okay have i done something to upset him?
all i got was yea im fine and no.
so i said okay look your talking to me here i know when somethings wrong just tell me and he said nothings wrong,i said alright then im here if you need me.
and he got seriously defensive saying look theres nothing wrong im absolutely fine jesus im going to get really annoyed if you keep asking just drop it.
so i didnt even reply said id leave him to cool off when he gets in moods its best to leave him cool off. but i havnt heard anything from him since and i dont want to text him first its like hes pushing me away all i want to do his help him?
he always helps me with stuff and i wanna be there for him too. what can i do? i cant loose him i really cant.
btw i dont know if this is any relevance but hes told me a couple of times how much he loves me and wishes something could happen between us but he knows that i dont feel the same and accepted it and things are fine that way..now im worried that maybe its becoming hard for him to be just my friend or something?
anyone any advice on what i should do?or what could possibly be bothering him and how to get him to at least talk to me and stop shutting me out like this!
thank you =)
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He professed his love for you and you've repeatedly rejected him, so I assume that's why he doesn't want to talk to you anymore.
I've never been able to come up with a good enough reason to explain it, but it's very rare for a man to remain friends with a woman in the situation that you've described. Nobody likes to be rejected, but being explicitly told by a girl that she has absolutely no romantic interest in you and then being asked to hang out with her and be her best friend is pretty much rock-bottom for a guy. I wouldn't say that he hates you because of it, but it clearly hurts him to spend time with you knowing that you'll never love him the way that he wants.
There are certainly some men out there who maintain relationships with girls who have rejected them, but it's very, very rare that they'll have the kind of friendship that you're after. He's probably realized that you're a lost cause in terms of dating, so he's decided to cut his losses and see if he can find love elsewhere.
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hey thanks,but the thing is this was monthss ago he said it,and we had been fine until recently. he kinda goes through phases of doing this so bleh idk.
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