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Q: Me: 13/F. Him: 14/m.
Okay well here's the background info: He has always gone to my school so I've known him practically my whole life, but I only started falling for him last year. I REALLY fell for him. It was last summer. We began talking all of the time and hanging out a lot too because our groups are pretty tight. We became really close, and then school started. I was certain that once school started we would drift apart. Wrong. We only spent more time together and grew closer. We both knew we liked eachother but decided we wouldn't date bcuz we didn't think we were mature enough to handle a relationship. But we still had feelings for eachother. I would get jelous like a girlfriend even though I wasn't one. And he would get protective like a boyfriend even though he wasn't one. And yet we still talked to eachother more than the "real couples" in our grade. Then, we found he would be moving at the end of the year that's when it was decided there would be absolutly no dating. I didnt need to date a boy when 1. I am only 13 and 2. He would be moving. No thank you. He agreed. Well again... That still didnt make the feelings go away which brings me to present day...
He is starting to try and make a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and I keep having to tell him (as much as I dont want to) no. I still really like him, I always have, but I'm trying so hard not to. Hes leaving soon, I know I have to stop liking him, but I can't. Especially when hes doing all he can to make sure I dont. He asked me on a date the other day and as much as it killed me I told him no. I am trying to get over him! He thinks I dont like him anymore. But I do. And I'm so confused. Is this the right thing to do? My friends tell me I should try to get as much of him as I can before he leaves but they dont understand how much more painful doing that will make it when he is gone. Does anyone understand this? The more I continue to open up to him, the more its going to hurt. Ugh its killing me. I dont know what to do or if what I am doing is right. I dont want to hurt him but I dont want to get hurt either. Can't he see that I'm trying to do us bot. a favor?? Help please! What do you think I should do?
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Personally, I think what your doing now is fine. Of course it's hard for you, but why in the world is he pushing to date if he is LEAVING? Is he just trying to cause problems? Because seriously, in what way would you both NOT get hurt from that. Take it froms someone older (not in a talking down to you sort of way in an advice because you asked sort of way), there are going to be other guys, you are completely right in what you've said about too young and him not being there for much longer. Of course it's hard, life can be that way sometimes. Stick to your guns so to speak and don't cave. Tell this guy the truth. "I really like you, care about you, and wish I could be with you, but I am still not ready for a real relationship let alone a long distance one, so why do you feel it is so important all of a sudden to date?" Hang in there, you've got the right idea, but then again, this is just my opinion. Look, whatever advice you decided to take or what you choose to do, good luck. Also, if it's meant to be, it'll be, keep that in mind as well.
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Hey! =) I really love my life and the things and people in it. I love fashion, make-up, going out, dancing, teaching dance, and being with my friends and family. I feel very blessed for the things I have. It took me a while to get to this point though and I know that growing up, and even people my age, you need advice about certain things every now and then. I've always had people give me advice about things and I've been able to use their advice through my own experience and mistakes and come up with some of my own things. And now I'm the one always helping my friends out. I always have new ideas that I love to share. And well, I can't promise I'll always be able to help or give you the answer you're looking for but, I'll definitely do my best. =)
Also, whether you ask me a question in my inbox or I answer one alone I normally ALWAYS add in my experiences because for me, I like to know when people can relate and aren't just guessing, it's easier when someone has actually been through it. And I'm not going to do any favors by lying, so I am ALWAYS going to be honest. But keep in mind just becasue of my experience and my honesty does not mean I am always right and I understand that. Feedback is appreciated to know what I can work on with certain answers, not demanded.
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Gender: Female Member Since: June 22, 2008 Answers: 77 Last Update: July 18, 2009 Visitors: 6994
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