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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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hey i liked the advice you've given me before :) soo..
i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.
17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.
oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.
I think the whole situation is just trouble waiting to happen. I have given girls who were in similar situations the same advice. I really don't think they take it either, but maybe you will since you like my advice ;)
Going from dating to just friends never works, because one person's feelings is almost always different. It will be awkward no matter what. In my opinion this guy is doing one of three things;
1) He's using you to get to the beach. This is unlikely. :)
2) You are a booty call. He doesn't want to be tied down, but he still wants to get some. More likely.
3) He's in a confusing stage in his life, and he isn't sure what he wants. Most likely.
Either way this isn't going to work, and none of those scenarios will end with you guys getting back together unless you do something about it.
You have two choices here.
1) You let this play out. You may hook up, and everything may seem great at the beach, although just so you are aware, Myrtle Beach really isn't that romantic. It's always crowded, so your romantic idea probably won't play out. Most likely this will end in heartbreak for you, because once you go back home, things are going to go right back to how they were.
or
2) You let him know that this isn't going to work like he wants it too. He's not going to stay single forever, and eventually he will meet another girl if you two aren't together. What will you do then? He has to know that things cannot continue like they are because eventually something is going to happen one way or the other. Let him know he can have all of you, or none at all. If he chooses not to be with you, you have to realize eventually it would be what's ultimiately best for you.
I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, and I am sorry for that. But I am just trying to give you the best possible advice for your well-being, and this is it.
Good Luck.
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